writing fanfiction when you have a boyfriend.... - Comments

@ amabie.
Best of luck!!!!!

@ amabie.
Good (: I'm here if you need to talk! ((:

@ kshelton2011
could be :/ I'll let you know how it goes anyway!

@ amabie.
Hmmm maybe he is just silent about what he thinks about it. :/

@ OctoberA7X
I know its about time I think wish me luck! and I will do :) thanks for all the advice guys!

@ amabie.
I see what you mean...but I'm glad you're gonna at least talk about it! Let me know how it goes :)

@ kshelton2011
exactly, I think maybe its partly to do with the fact he does engineering and never like english at school was more of a maths person so he doesn't see writing as significant. But as I said in the beginning he was quite supportive and it seems to wore off so I might just ask what he thinks about it.

@ OctoberA7X
I think he will understand but he is quite a jealous person so thats why if I told him I wrote a chapter with like a sex scene, I don't know how he take. I know its silly and it's just a story but I think he would feel awkward. I'll just ask him if he has a problem with it or whats his thoughts on the subject.

My boyfriend knows but he doesn't think it's weird or anything because he knows of my love for A7X and he also knows that I'm a writer. he accepts it because it's apart of who I am. I don't think you should hide it from him. Explain to him that it's what you love, that it's your form of expression and it's who you are. You've spent four years building a relationship and I think that he will understand. But I definitely don't think that it's something you should hide, your work is something that you can never be ashamed of...he loves you ... ALL OF YOU!

@ amabie.
Yeah but I mean if he doesn't like it then I would have a talk with him about it and say that it's something that you like to do, and he can't really stop you from it, I mean you aren't trying to take him away from his hobbies.

@ kshelton2011
exactly well least I know I'm not the only one.

@ amabie.
Yeah that's how I feel :/ I hate that feeling too. I kinda just don't tell him anymore. But I mean I get excited when I write and want to tell someone about it...I guess that's why I joined Mibba and DeviantArt

@ kitsch
i know i do really enjoy, i just feel self conscious if i mention it to him

@ ladyschrei
thats very true, I mean it benefits me also with my grammar and such.

@ a woman's conscience
I think you're right maybe I should try it that way thanks!

@ Airi.
Yeah maybe if I just say to him what actually bothers him about it?

@ kshelton2011
Yeah I'm the same! I think he just brushes it off like its a waste of time and thinks its immature. I mean he doesn't complain about it, I just feel like he judges me tho :/

He shouldn't mind it. But I do the same thing, even though I don't write fan fiction I do write "Romance" type stories and when I talk to my boyfriend about it he says he wants to read them but never does. I don't know he just looks completely bored with me when I talk about it. But I guess he accepts it. So I kinda know how you feel

I think it's best if the two of you sit down and have a heart to heart talk about it. Ask him how he truly feels and explain your feelings to him as well.

I think if you're just honest with your boyfriend and let him know that it's not necessarily about the fan fics but rather the actual love of writing, he might better understand it? I don't know. Perhaps by expressing to him that it's a part of who you are instead of some meaningless hobby to pass the time, he might see things differently. Those are just my two cents, hope it helps :)

I mean, I do feel that you can grow out of fanfiction, but 19 is still a young age for it, for lack of better words, if you read/write fanfiction. As in, if you've been reading/writing it for a while, 19 is still too young, in my eyes, to be able to "grow out of it."

Don't let him make you feel bad for writing it. If he's jealous over you writing a story, then that's something I think he needs to work on. Be proud of your writing. I can understand wanting to keep the actual stories private, but be proud of writing fanfiction. Don't let anyone make you feel any less for writing it.

I haven't had any personal experiences such as yours, but if you're doing something that makes
you happy, I don't see the problem with it. I can understand wanting to keep it to yourself though.