31/05/13 - I don't know what to do (NC-17) - Comments

A good dom won't do anything his sub can't handle. He'll push the boundaries, sure, and see what's okay and what isn't but if you give him a firm no (or call out your safe word), he'll stop and he'll respect your decision. BDSM is all about trust. As long as you trust your dom, you have nothing to worry about. If he's a good dom and not just a sadist prick, he'll take care of you and make sure that you both feel good.

If you're delving into BDSM for the first time, there are two things to do:

1. Talk to your dom first about what you are comfortable with, what your limits are, what you need from him to feel pleasure and what he wants from you. If yall are on the same page, then it's okay to become intimate. If one of you is unsatisfied with the plan, it's probably best not to begin.

2. Go slow. You don't need to rush into whips and ball gags the first time. Start easy with simple things amd work your way into the more adventurous stuff.

If you are interested in being a sub, go for it. It's okay to even be a little nervous or scared. But dont go into it half-hearted or without trusting your dom because then chances are, one of you will end up getting hurt.

@ Yours Synfully
Okay love! If you'd like to talk my messages are always opened.

@ Enchanting Nightmare
It's definitely the fear that is putting me off. I feel like I'd end up making a mistake either way. I just dont know and I dont want to put myself in an uncomfortable position. Thank you for the advice though :)

@ Yours Synfully
There are always going to be insecurities and fears in everything you do, that's part of life and if you want it, I say try it out. He's will to cooperate with you and life is short, if you're liking the thought then go with your heart. I'm here if you'd like to talk.

I agree with everyone. One thing though...If you join that lifestyle know your limits and set your rules.

i'm with zacky vengeance; on this one and if you can't make up your mind about it, that you don't know what to do.. maybe you should talk to him and like just do ''normal'' stuff as a try to see if there is a spark or whatever sexually at all, that way it might be easier to make a final decision to ease your way slowly into that whole world.. start off with small things to test out your limits and what you like and don't like.. just don't do it if you don't feel 100% sure about it and about him.. don't want you to regret it later..

@ Enchanting Nightmare
He said he would start slow with me and I have been thinking about it. I just can't make a decision. I want to but insecurities and fears put me off.

This is something you can't just jump into, I'd think about it and well, talk to him about it. Maybe you can ease into it a little bit? I've never been in that situation but I wish you all the best!

@ Zacky Vengeance;
Yeah, it does help. I've told him that I have no experience and he's said that he will be easy on me. He's said to take my time but I feel like I have to give him an answer. I'm exited about the prospect of it all but incredibly scared. I guess it's good to try new things.

Well...if I were in your shoes, I'd think about it for a while. Or even just say to him that I wanted to edge my way in. If you haven't done this kind of stuff before, you shouldn't be diving in at the deep end. So, if I were you I would tell him that you're interested, but you don't want the full on stuff just yet. Maybe he can help ease you in to that kind of lifestyle and then if you don't like it, you can easily come back out again. I hope that helps! Just don't do anything that you don't feel comfortable with- it's your decision not his.