How do You be More Positive? - Comments

Unfortunately - I am never in a positive mood, I have the most negative outlook of everybody I know, but I seem to be doing fine.

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@ lord snow

@ kitsch

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@ tyrion.angel

@ swell
Thank you all so much! I'm most definitely going to try and use a lot of these.

Every day I write up a list of good things that happened on the day, and then whenever I feel shit I read back on the lists and see what makes me happy. One of the biggest things you can do is to care less of what others think of you and cut yourself some slack - you're only human and as human beings we stuff up sometimes. It's okay to make mistakes so we can learn from them. It's not okay to dwell on them and make them your whole life. Caring less is not something you can do overnight, but as soon as you accept that you're a human being that makes mistakes and that the opinion of others are unnecessary, then it's easier to feel positive.

If something bad happens, I tend to dwell on it for an hour or two and then I don't let myself think about it. Also, surround yourself with positive people. It helps a lot. Make a playlist of upbeat, positive songs and keep it on repeat. Some of my favourite positive songs are Independent Women - Destiny's Child, Lady Gaga/Beyonce are great at being uplifting and embracing who they are.

I also like to tell myself that I am one bad bitch - I haven't done it lately but standing in front of the mirror and pointing out your best features always makes you feel good about yourself. Happiness is a state of mind, not a destination - I think that's really important to remember.

kitsch:

For each day, I'd have to say what I was thankful for. It lets you appreciate the little things. Then I was given the task of saying three good things about myself weekly like qualities or traits.

That's similar to what I was going to advise Sometimes when you're feeling really low it helps to pick out one positive thing that happened in your day, no matter how small it is, and just smile about it. And, smile at yourself at least once a day in the mirror, even if it is fake for the first day or week or however long. Just do it. I know it might sound a bit weird, but it actually helps It's more longterm, though. I hope you're able to be more positive soon

If there's anybody in your life that drags you down, cut them out of your life. I know it's a very difficult thing to do, but believe me, it will help.
And like you said in your blog post, it's hard to only focus on the good things. But you just have to try really hard to focus on them. Let yourself spend a little bit of time with the bad things. But then move on from it and decide that you're going to be happy.
Make a list of things you're thankful for and just remind yourself how lucky and blessed you are to have those things.
Be happy with yourself. You don't need to impress anybody. Do you. Just un-apologetically you. People that truly enjoy your company will love you for who you are.

I hope it helps (:

Here's something that helped me. "It all depends on how much YOU let things affect your life." Someone gave me that advice once and ever since it 's helped. I've always been a naturally negative person cause I grew up in that type of home. I've battled depression for years. I finally got to a point where I felt like everything was swallowing me up so I decided to stop giving a damn and find things to make me happy. :)

I'm not sure if I'm a positive person. But I've been told by several of my friends that I have a bubbly attitude and that I seem like someone who doesn't have any problems in life. Which is of course ridiculous, isn't it? Who doesn't have problems?

But I just tend not to think about them. Especially, if it's just minor things. My friends talk about me behind my back? Well, I'll let their words fall to deaf ears. I don't have food money? I think about those who haven't eaten for days. I can' buy the things I want? I look at the things I already have. It's all the little things in life that'll make you happy.

The key is, to love your life the way it is. It's hard to do so at first. Oh, I would know because before this, years ago, I was a mess. I was a cutter. I though my life was so dark and I was so alone. Especially after I lost my best friend. But time heals everything, I guess. And always think positive. Think about the bright side of each problem.

Now, I live with the mentality that everything happens for a reason, no matter big or small, no matter how good or bad it is, there is always a reason and things to learn.

I hope everything will go well for you.

Well, the exercises I was given in therapy helped me a lot to stay positive.
For each day, I'd have to say what I was thankful for. It lets you appreciate the little things. Then I was given the task of saying three good things about myself weekly like qualities or traits.

I'm not really positive in life...but if I manage to give an essay in before a deadline, I do applaud myself because for this entire year, not one of my essays have been in before the deadline. In fact, they've all been in after deadlines.

I dunno, just focus on little things, like "I went to bed before midnight - I'm doing good!" works for me. But then, I don't often achieve my "positive" things so I probably am not the best person to give tips.