Sorry That You're Black =( - Comments

@ Brian Haner Jr
Apology accepted dear.

@ p r i s m
I apologize that my comment came across that way, I'll refrain from insulting you with my opinions or words in the future. Ignore what I've said.

Stay strong.

@ MamaZ
Exactly. In a world like this, we can't just be a person first, we have to be black first and everything that supposedly comes with it, which is bullshit. It's tough.

@ park chanyeol
There's no specific way to "be black." A lot of things black people do to day that are seen as cool or trendy are what the majority of the world use to rate every black person on this imaginary "How Black are You?" scale. It's so damaging, and I hate it. And so many people, it's actually embarassing, think of very dark skinned when they think black. People are just ignorant.

@ pervntique.
Np hon =) I think about this almost every day, this is the first time I'm putting it into words. I should just get a diary lol <3

@ Brian Haner Jr
I know that you're trying to be nice and understanding. I appreciate that. But when you say things like
"There are assholes out there, plain and simple; I don't think it has anything to do with skin color." You're automatically disregarding the things that I and anyone for that matter has been through specifically because of their skin color, even if you don't realize.

I made this blog explaining how I feel about learning to love myself as a black person, and not how much being white will always make someone a racist and how much you "cop the same discrimination from others for being white."

As someone who's probably lumped with that "will never understand" label, I have to say that in itself hurts. There are assholes out there, plain and simple; I don't think it has anything to do with skin color. As a white woman, and I might come across in the wrong way so I hope I don't, I can understand where you're coming from with this blog and I feel for you. You shouldn't have to go through this - no one does - because putting someone down for their skin color is utter bullshit. Being black isn't a fault, just as being white doesn't make someone instantly a hater. I constantly cop that, that no matter what good I do, because I'm white, I'll always be a racist and a white dog that deserves to die.(I'm not at all saying this in relations to this blog, just in general.) I hope this doesn't come across badly, I'm not trying to preach anything - I should shut up, I'm too tired for this haha. But I get it, I do understand because I cop the same discrimination from others for being white - same shit different day yeah?

My point is, you're beautiful. Don't let anyone tell you you're not because they're wrong. What's in your heart is what shines through and makes you attractive, makes you beautiful, not the color of your skin. You are beautiful because you won't let this break you, no matter how much it hurts. You're beautiful because you simply are - and they're jealous enough and insecure enough to try to break you. Don't let them yeah? Black, white, we all have the power to be beautiful, we can choose to be - it's not something someone is born with. But, then again, maybe I'm speaking of a deeper beauty than what those people are hating on you for - a beauty they'll never know because they're shallow.

I'm glad that you wrote this blog. I agree with every word. I'm young and I'm still growing and, along with that, I'm learning to love myself as an African American. It's a bit hard, though, because we, as black people, are portrayed as being dense and outlandish, ghetto even. And that's not the depiction we need. We're no different than any other race.

Amen. The oddest thing about the discrimination I've faced, is it's more in the way of I'm not black enough. I have white in me, so my skin is lighter. I've heard the jokes "yeah well you're light-skinned" and "you don't even look black". Not even just with my skin color, but the things that I'm into; i.e the music I like and the way I carry myself. I've been told since I was in middle school that I don't "act black". It used to get to me a lot when I was younger and I used to feel like I didn't know where I belonged, but I too have grown up and realized that no matter where I go in life, there's always gonna be someone with an opinion about my ethnicity or skin color, so I just have to deal with it and like you said, learn to love myself. I still have a long way to go, but eventually it'll be at least a little easier (I hope )

I know how you feel. As a black female, I know how hard it is to love yourself when the world shows us that we are just ghetto trash. People don't know what to think when we are smart and are making good names for ourselves. I went to an all white high school and I had to deal with racism for the first time in my life. It was hard to overcome, but I dealt with. The way I see it, if the world and people are going to hate me, I should give them a real reason to do so. How? I just go on and be who I am.

You are beautiful, you are smart and there is nothing wrong with that. You being black only makes you stronger :)

@ Charity M. Lewis
@ dyke

<3
=) Sweehearts

I feel this in my soul.

This seriously speaks to me.