Confused About My Gender, or Am I? || Does This Sound Sexist to You? - Comments

Your gender identity is decided by no one but you c:
Don't sweat it.

When it comes to gender identity, I personally think that boys have it worse. What you said in your blog is right - generally when a girl doesn't wear make-up or wears clothes that aren't girly, nothing is said about it and the most people say is that they're a tomboy (although, I'm like that and I've been called a lesbian in the past, even though I am not). Whereas with men, whenever they do things that girls do, they instantly get judged.

In terms of your gender identity, all you need to do is be true to yourself. Once you manage to shut out the voices and opinions of those around you, you'll know in your heart where you stand. If you felt comfortable beforehand, then should there be any need to change anything? People might just have planted a seed of doubt in your head. Of course, the choice is yours to make, and yours only!

kudos to you! I used to love make-up but after school taking up all my time, I can barely apply eyeliner evenly *cries*. Just like everyone else has said in the comments, just be you, boo! I've known males who take care of their hair more than I do, plan their outfits meticulously, and even walk with more sashaying of the hips than other females I've known, and I've known girls who don't mind body hair, who crop their hair in "boy" cuts. I think whatever makes you happy is what matters most, so if you're comfortable now, you don't need to feel confused, unless you are feeling unhappy :)

I'm actually in the midst of writing a research paper on the societal constructs of gender (and how contemporary drag performance breaks that down, but that part isn't important...) Anyways, I believe that gender is fluid, and someone who identifies as male can easily dip into what society views as "feminine" and it doesn't REALLY matter. "Male" and "female" are just two polar ends on a wide spectrum of gender, but those two genders are what society views as the "norm". But it's not this rigid box that any person has to fit into, which personally, I think is a beautiful thing. I think that every person deserves to be happy and deserves to feel comfortable in their own bodies, and "masculine"/"feminine" "male"/"female" are just general guidelines that a person can choose to follow if they want to, regardless of biological sex or gender identity.

Basically, what I'm saying is that you shouldn't worry about what other people say. They are just conditioned by society, and nobody can really blame them for that. But as long as you keep doing what makes you happy, then A+ to you!

KOTA.:

Seriously though, how do you have the patience to put so much effort into your appearance? I'm a female and I think makeup is too much work most of the time.

I'm VERY insecure about my looks. think without make up I simply look like a dogs ass. I refuse to leave my house without my make up really lol. I have to make the time for it. If I have to get up at 6 for college, I will set my alarm for 4am. It's really hard to explain, publicly. Inbox me if you want me to go into more detail lol. Oh and thank you. :)

Just keep doing what makes you happy and don't worry about labels. :)

Seriously though, how do you have the patience to put so much effort into your appearance? I'm a female and I think makeup is too much work most of the time.

Honestly, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you feel comfortable as male but still do things that are typically seen as feminine it doesn't mean that you're not male. It just means that you like doing more typically feminine things.
If you do feel more comfortable calling yourself female - or even genderfluid - then it has to be all you.

If you're comfortable with the way you do things and still identify yourself as male, then just continue what you're doing. Don't question yourself unless you're really trying to decide what gender you are. Because as far as I'm concerned, you're pretty damn cool the way you are.

Don't let other people make you question yourself Jamie, do what you want to do, be who you want to be, wax, tan, wear girls perfume, do what makes you feel the most you... and besides you know that you all levels of awesome :)

I wear boys hoodies, and deodrant (lynx because it smells great) but it doesn't make me a boy! It's just me

And ooooo Teen Wolf...!