Long Distant Relationship - Comments

@ gatesguardian.
I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. It can be hard no matter the distance. I'm not moving to New York just for him though. I have a better chance at being successful doing Cosmetology. He is just an added bonus and kind of motivation. I'm a big user of pros and cons.

i was in a long distance relationship once. we lived in the same state and were only a few hours apart and not even that worked out. lol i am not really a fan of long distance relationships. if you're planning on moving go NYC, that will probably be in your best interest. but are you sure you want to move all the way to NYC for a guy? what happens if you get there and it doesn't work out? i am a planner/logical thinker, so i cannot help but think those things. lol i hope that things work out though, because while i don't think long distance relationships are healthy, i think every relationship is worth exercising until there's no other choice but to end it. good luck!

@ Mia Hall
Just relax and let things happen.

@ Theo Rossi;

I really like him. But part of me still worries about messing up, even though he tells me it's not possible. I guess I just have to relax =_=

@ Mia Hall
I'm sure you can.

@ Theo Rossi;

Can I say I do, if we're not together? Lol. We like each other and have been on a couple dates.

@ Mia Hall
Well I'm glad that you have a wonderful guy.

@ Theo Rossi;

Mhm. Well, I have a good guy now, though we're not together. But I feel connected to him in a way I've never felt with anyone else.

@ Mia Hall
Then at at least you aren't with such a terrible person anymore. You will find someone better.

@ SmilingScarlet
Yeah it is hard. It sucks at times. Hopefully everything will work out for you. Long distant relationships can only work if there is a lot of trust it seems like.

If the person is in it for the long run, then I'm all for it. I'm currently in one...I think? I haven't heard from my guy in two weeks now, and last I heard we kind of were in a...debate I guess? I don't know. But he pretty much told me he wanted nothing to end, and that he's always swamped and feels bad.

Eh, I really like him too, but I'm not sure what's going on.

@ Theo Rossi;

Don't be sorry, I'm better off. He ended up breaking up with me over text two months before it would have been 2 years. Then he started seeing someone a month later and they're now getting married after almost 6 years together. It makes me laugh, because wow. Also, she looks like a bird

@ Mia Hall
I guess I just have to work at mine. I'm sorry yours didn't work out for you.

My only long distance relationships sort of worked, but then it got to a point where it didn't, and I was okay with that. He lived in New Jersey and I live in New York. It got complicated. He would stay over on weekends, and when I visited every few months, I'd stay for a week or two.

@ Synical
I really do hope that it works out for me and him. I agree things are better now because of the technology.

@ redwoodoriginal;
Yeah it isn't the same. It's better then nothing, right?

@Theo Rossi; That's true. I'm sorry. Skype should definitely help at least a little. I know it doesn't replace actually seeing him in person, but it's close to it.. kinda.

I think it can work if both people want it to and put in the effort. Since you're not there physically together every minute, trust becomes a big factor. With all the technology today such as web cams and texting, it does make it a bit easier on long distance relationships other than just email or phone conversations like back in the day lol. Good luck!

@ redwoodoriginal;
Yeah, there needs to be some distance, but too much can be a bad thing too. I will try Skype with him.

Personally, I've never been in one. I think some distance is good in a relationship. A lot of issues couples have these days is that they see each other all the time. I think that's what ended up hurting my friend and her ex-husband. Not only did they live together, but they worked together as well. Maybe try video chatting like through Skype or something to help?