Publicizing Personal Information - Comments

@ atmos
Thank you.

I think the only way people have that many friends is they add the random people they went/go to school with, but who knows.

Nah you're totally right. You value your privacy. There's nothing wrong with that. And if you did happen to post your relationship status publicly...so what? You literally don't have to explain yourself to anyone. Last time I checked FB was supposed to be for family and friends. If you feel you don't want certain people seeing certain things just unfriend them. That way, if you ever felt like you did want to publicize anything, it would be to the right people, there would be no need to delete your account. If you do feel like you're going to delete, that's fine obviously, but people kind of demonize FB when really it all comes down to the people YOU friend. Twitter or tumblr is a good alternative if you're trying to avoid family online.

To me, the people who usually complain about FB either 1. Have wayy to many "friends" like how do you even have over 100/200, or, 2. have friended the wrong people [dramatic/nosy/annoying/prying people] - that can mean friends AND family too. You literally did nothing wrong, I disagree with your friend too.

@ The Real Mitt Romney
That sounds quite nice. Maybe I will go through with it and delete mine. It's not like I still don't have email.

@ kitsch
I feel like there really isn't any good things but FB, other than keepingin touch with old friends, but even then it's like, if they have a phone we could casually text once in a blue moon to update each other, not out in the public I could go on and on about my family calling my mom and telling her the things I've posted on Facebook, but yeah, it's just funny because when I did have FB my mom and I were friends there. I didn't hide posts, she saw it all, I typically don't post things I wouldn't want my mom seeing, yet they still feel the need to stalk me states away and babysit me.

@ Michael Westen
Honestly, deleting my account has made my life so much easier. I also haven't had a phone in 5 years (but let's be real, anyone 18 and older needs one for work/etc) and I've kind of closed a lot of bridges just by doing that. No one knows anything I'd rather not have them know (unless my brother has posted on FB, ha ). There's just... no "drama" at all. It's minimum, I should say.

And eh, it's okay, but thank you. I've gotten over it but I just let that little residual bitterness shine through. There's nothing like people assuming the responsibility to tell Facebook what's going on in your life, especially after you left for a reason.

@ Serena Swanson
Maybe is has something to do with settings, all I know is it wasn't going to appear on mine. (Glad you two are back together, I hope it all goes well for you.)

Right. Posting a status about it sounds weird to me anyway.

I thought it showed on your timeline. When my boyfriend and I got together, people saw it and liked/commented on it - when we broke up as well. (No worries, we're back together. We only had a big fight and silly me thought clever to say, "Haha, I'm changing my relationship status on FB to single!" before storming out x)

Now, I don't understand what would be the point in making an actual post about it. It shows on your profile page anyway, if people wanna know whether you're in a relationship or not, the answer is just one click away.

@ The Real Mitt Romney
Exactly. I've been tempted to delete my account so many times, but I do talk to people on there so I keep it. Lately though, I've just been feeling the want to get rid of all my social media accounts though, but that's a different blog.

Sorry your brother did that, that's awful. I give you no shit. You get to be mad.

@ kitsch
Facebook "friends" indeed.

@ The Real Mitt Romney
Oh my god, that is totally why I have zero family members on my FB. Totally uncalled for. If it wasn't for the need for discounted books via a uni group and to keep in touch with friends who are attending uni elsewhere, I'd be done with it altogether.

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And that's 1000% justified. Nobody should feel an obligation to their Facebook "friends."

This is exactly why I hate Facebook. And I agree with kitsch. If you wanted someone to know about your relationship status, you don't need to make a public post for all of Facebook to see. It's so dumb, Facebook is just some stupid way for people to measure their self worth, like oh, if I don't post and let every single "facebook friend" know a part of my life I'm not living correctly! Facebook is just a bunch of bull imo, it's all about saving face I feel.

I got shit from my friends for being angry with my brother for announcing, without my consent or knowledge, and worst of all super publically because he has who knows how my "friends" on there, which college I was going to and what I was majoring in. LIKE, NOOOOO. He literally violated my privacy on some level. If I don't even use FB, why does he think it's okay to go around telling everyone things about me? I wasn't planning on telling anyone, I even told my parents not to mention my school to their family. I just I'm so mad I could cry. I really hate Facebook and all the stupid shit think needs to be posted on there.

This is exactly why I hate Facebook. And I agree with kitsch. If you wanted someone to know about your relationship status, you don't need to make a public post for all of Facebook to see. It's so dumb, Facebook is just some stupid way for people to measure their self worth, like oh, if I don't post and let every single "facebook friend" know a part of my life I'm not living correctly! Facebook is just a bunch of bull imo, it's all about saving face I feel.

I got shit from my friends for being angry with my brother for announcing, without my consent or knowledge, and worst of all super publically because he has who knows how my "friends" on there, which college I was going to and what I was majoring in. LIKE, NOOOOO. He literally violated my privacy on some level. If I don't even use FB, why does he think it's okay to go around telling everyone things about me? I wasn't planning on telling anyone, I even told my parents not to mention my school to their family. I just I'm so mad I could cry. I really hate Facebook and all the stupid shit think needs to be posted on there.

@ kitsch
It's really this instance that I'm not just going to put out there. The people that need to know, know. Other information, if I really feel the need, I do post it; Like my leg, I let people know about that, because it's not something I mind talking about. The end of my relationship however... Definitely not ready to really talk about.

Eh, I agree and disagree because of circumstances. In this particular case, I think you're in the "right" to leave it as is. But then again, I don't share that much personal info on my Facebook anyhow. If I have important information, the people who truly matter to me will know it before it's posted---if it ever is posted.