Rape Scenes - Comments

I definitely agree with the points that you make in this blog about rape. Unfortunately, so many people write from the perspective that all things are beautiful, even ugly things like rape, suicides, murder, disease, etc. So many people take those real issues and romanticize them. I do have a rape scene in one of my books on Mibba because at the time that I was writing it, I myself was raped. I had no one to talk about it to and was terrified of what people might think, so to cope with it I put it in my book. Both my character and myself was forced to work through the traumatic effects that come with such a horrific experience. There is nothing enjoyable or beautiful about such a volatile act, I can promise that.

lol I read the whole comment section and kept checking back to see if the drama thickened and now I would like to comment even tho the user is currently inactive, I just need to voice my thoughts

but first, this blog is perfect, I love everything about it. I don't watch GoT (unless you count the 5 episodes I did watch) but if you have to resort to unnecessary rape to make a story, then you're probably not a good writer lol. I feel like a lot of people don't realize that rape is a real thing? Like you can't just throw it around and act like it doesn't mean anything.

And now lol like why would you dismiss an entire blog and the message of the blog just because something was spoiled for you? Like you missed the whole point entirely and being a completely baby about it. Be mad about the spoiler, fine, but don't dismiss the point of the blog and important topics it brings up. Like that's just being petty and immature.

@ born from a wish
I'm really sorry you feel that way, and that you can solve the issue by posting additional blogs and calling me names. Take care.

And my comments have been constructive as well. My criticism is that I can't take your opinions seriously if you're going to be inconsiderate.

@ Lee Hi;
And once again, I'm not mad over a spoiler, I'm mad at people telling me that I'm wrong for feeling frustrated with it. Please don't make assumptions about things you know nothing about.

Damn if a person gets mad about a spoiler, I'd hate to see what really ticks them off.

Sorry I was reading the comments and I couldn't help myself.

I completely agree with you on everything. Rape is a very sensitive topic and it's not something that should happen in a chapter and just blown off and never mentioned again. It's something that scars you and it's not something to be taken lightly.

Damn if a person gets mad about a spoiler, I'd hate to see what really ticks them off.

Sorry I was reading the comments and I couldn't help myself.

I completely agree with you on everything. Rape is a very sensitive topic and it's not something that should happen in a chapter and just blown off and never mentioned again. It's something that scars you and it's not something to be taken lightly.

@ born from a wish
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to give you the attitude you're perceiving or for you to feel this way! I definitely don't want you to feel negative or that I am targeting you! You're more than welcome to your opinion and to post blogs about it. I'd like to point out that you should send the writer whose blog you had a problem with a private message! By doing so, I could have corrected the blog a while ago, and you would have saved yourself from being 'berated'. Any comment you have received from me has simply meant to be constructive, and I wish you could serve me the same common courtesy.

And it's worth mentioning that you wanted my opinion, you asked me to confront you. So I honestly don't know why you're giving me such an attitude now that I'm doing that.

I'm taking this personally because you and others are verbally berating me for simply venting my frustration. You say that Mibba is such a positive place but it really isn't when I'm being barraged by people for telling me I'm wrong for feeling a certain way.

@ born from a wish
I'm sorry to hear that such a little and well known thing will get in the way of your Mibba experience and understanding the purpose of this blog. Considering that the blogs are meant to be a positive space, I'm also sorry that you've had a negative experience and taken that into a positive feedback system upon yourself. It's unfortunate that you are taking this so personally, but I suppose that it is your loss. I felt when posting this blog that by mentioning in the beginning that I would be drawing on experiences in movies, books and tv shows that the readers could expect an example or two to back it up. Best of luck to you in the future!

@ folie a deux
I know, sometimes Game of Thrones is hard to take with all of raunch prositution and boobs EVERYWHERE! But then I have to remind myself, that in the past 'play houses' were common, and they don't have tv to watch game of thrones, so what else would they do? What I do appreciate about the nakedness on GoT is the realness of it, the bodies are simple and diverse! There are saggy, small, big, and perky boobs to go with a bit of variety in body size! Also, the women are all bad ass bitches (cough Cersei and Margaery) and they definitely run the show!

@ LordOfTheThunderCats
That's actually one of the problems I have with fan-fiction, I just get super uncomfortable about it sometimes (we're going off topic here...). Not even when sexual things are involved! Sometimes I feel like the author is taking freedom away from the celebrity? I think that if I was famous, I wouldn't appreciate someone putting words into my mouth or make me do things I wouldn't usually do or be comfortable with! I think it's just an authenticity thing to me.

@ jason kim
Yes! And it's all these things that suppress women, it's become a normalcy in media. I think it's writing and movies like this that support rape culture and shame women for having bodies and having power over them. You can extend that to Instagrams rules on nipples. Thanks for commenting <3 I just went back and read this for the first time and noticed an ass tonne of errors. I really was ranting lol

Since you're so adamant about me bringing this up with you, I'll just go ahead and say. I was going to agree with this blog until you laid out that massive Game of Thrones spoiler, now I'm just completely dismissive of this whole blog post. You're going to tell me that it's my fault that I was spoiled, because that's what everyone else on this site has been telling me, so I'll just go ahead and never read a single blog post on this site ever again, and I'll never write my own blogs venting any sort of frustration as people have a tendency to comment on them and tell me how horribly wrong I am for feeling the things that I do. So thank you for teaching me this valuable lesson. I'll just keep to myself from now on.

I agree with everything you said, so thank you for writing this blog. Game of Thrones gets me sooo mad with that shit and I don't even watch the show! (tried to, but it was way too fucking raunchy for me...anyway) I have a rape scene in one of my stories and I take it very very seriously as it's something the character deals with for the rest of her life. I actually went back and forth for a while trying to decide on whether I should include it or not but ultimately I decided it was too important to me and my personal experiences to leave out, and I wanted to use it as an example of how it should be done if you really want to include a scene like that in your story (with good reason of course.) And it has actually prompted quite a few rape survivors to come out and talk about their experiences with me and thank me for representing this issue in a realistic manner, which I appreciate sooo much, it's unreal.

I would never be able to just use something like that as a small plot point and I don't understand people who do (or even worse, portray it in a neutral or positive light.) I hate when creators just add it into plots as just another obstacle or something that a character has to overcome; that's not how it works in real life, it never fully goes away.

It's even worse when people write about thier favorite celebrities kidnapping a character (that is blatantly obviously the author themselves) and raping them and then the two live happily ever after without the initial rape ever having a negative impact on the character because them having sex in general, having kids, and getting married means everything is forgiven and it just becomes part of the romantic story of how they met when they tell the story to their kids/grandkids. -_-"

thank you for this. thank you

i despise that in writing. especially if it seems as if the author (professional & on here) throw it in as - oh my god *sarcasm* plot twist!! rape is not a joke & you're so right w/ these points. i feel like if you're going to write a story & consider involving rape, you really need to look up on it. it's rare that i do write about this controversial topic mainly bc i won't write unless i've done my research. i write more serious things so obviously i mention rape or certain things depending on the topic (war mostly) but for me to throw it in there would make me shameful of writing. if you're going to add it into the plot, make sure it does a shit load of change not only to the victim but the victim's potential lover, family - it's a life altering thing. for someone to mention rape & then have said rape victim & potential lover just la la la about their lives - no no no. & it's not even only w/ the stories on here. i've seen them in professional writings too *COUGH* ellen hopkins who not only - i feel - romanticizes it, but repeats it in over half her writings *COUGH*

thank you for writing this blog. respect points to you

@ unapalomayunaflor
Thank you so much for your comment and for understanding the true purpose of this blog <3

@ losing control.
No, you're totally right! You see it all the time in published novels as well as online writing!

"Rape is not a side plot. Rape is the main plot."

That quote from your blog above should be stamped everywhere. I agree with you on all of it. It's such a sensitive topic. So much thought must be put into writing it. I absolutely hate it when writer's throw it around to further their plot and then ignore it completely. In reality, moments like that affect your whole life and honestly if you don't know the effect of what you are writing, don't write about it.

I definitely agree with this. Most of the rape scenes in GoT can be justified, in my opinion, but the one that you mentioned just didn't need to happen. It was random and weird and I was super uncomfortable when it happened.

I also agree that a lot of time, people seem to put into stories without really thinking about what the character would be going through. That's why I'll most likely never write rape scenes in my stories, I don't know what would be happening with the character and what their reactions afterwards would be, so I don't feel like I'm able to write it without it being disrespectful if that makes sense.

Obviously that's me being super generalized, as I'm sure there's tons of well-written, well thoughtout scenes that people write. I just haven't come across many.