The Worst Part About Being a Girl/Boy

Being expected ti fit into either gender's stereotypes.

Periods.

The worst part about being biologically female for me is dealing with the ingrained misogyny within society. Warped perceptions of how a member of my sex should look have literally left me mentally ill. Multiple instances of feeling trapped while men have encroached into my comfort zone in ways that have felt threatening (whether it was meant to be or not) have left me wary of being in public places alone, particularly at night. The gender binary has not only left me horrendously confused but has also left me feeling excluded from some of my favorite things; as a science fiction fan, where both the creators of the materials (see: Star Trek Into Darkness creative team) as well as some of the male fan bases don't really believe I also can be a fan of these things, and as someone who wishes to pursue a career in science, which is primarily a male-dominated field of work. Speaking of work, I've already had to mentally prepare myself for the fact that I will most likely be paid less for my work than my male counterparts, regardless of experience or work productiveness (and possibly even less than my straight counterparts if it ever comes out at work that I'm queer). I've realized that the fact that the majority of my favorite fictional characters are be male due to the fact that representation of females in media (typically in a motherly or secondary type role) simply don't represent me/are almost always completely unrelatable to me.

But mostly I am just so sick of not being treated seriously, particularly by men, no matter what I do or say. If I'm cooking or baking something (which I actually quite enjoy doing), then I'm "congratulated" as it's seen like I'm doing "the right thing" by "being in the kitchen" (things my dad has actually said to me in 'jokes'). If I talk about starting at college in the fall, then I get generalizations of how I will act by men who don't even know me ("well if it's anything like how college was for me...all the freshmen girls were all over the guys", "you're not responsible, you're about to be a freshman in college"). When I tried to work in the lab with one of my best male friends, he would always try to do everything for me. I called him out on this by saying, "What, you don't think I should work too?" He replied with: "No, I don't think you should have to work at all." And almost every time I've mentioned my plans on having a career in science (a goal I've had since I was about 8 years old - so you can imagine that I've been having this conversation a lot) I've been met with utter amazement and incredulity. I used to think it was simply because I was young, but considering people are still having this reaction to me, I'm starting to think otherwise.

I sound like an angry queer feminist and quite frankly, I don't really care. If it seems that I'm generalizing/attacking men, I don't mean to - it's simply based on my experiences that these issues have tended to crop up in my interactions with males than with other females. Essentially, I am so fucking done with sexism that so many other girls I know seem content to just deal with or even perpetuate, and I don't understand why everyone isn't this angry also and wanting to scream from the top of their lungs.

periods, childbirth, having to shave and the way in which we're 'easy' if we sleep with guys but guys are honoured for sleeping around with girls.

Men saying feminist issues aren't real.

I hate having to shave my bikini areas! No matter how hard I try it's still shows when I wear a bikini!

Never being able to stop thinking.

Periods.
It makes me slice my skin off.

@ consulting detective
I agree with every single word you said. I'm tired of men telling me that feminists need to calm the fuck down and that we need to focus on men's rights. The biggest problem I've been dealing with at the moment is public interactions where men frequently call out at me, comment on my body or what I'm wearing, and actually make me fear going outside and second guess wearing shorts/skirts/dresses; it's even worse when they tell me I should take it as a compliment. Most recently, I've actually had incidents of groping where guys will squeeze my ass in passing or, mostly at concerts, rub against me so I can feel them. I try so hard not to sound like a misandrist, but I seriously can't deal with men right now.

-Being told what to wear. I wear really baggy hoodies and jeans, simply because I don't like my figure.
-Bras. They just piss me off.
-Being seen as the 'weaker' sex.
-'Female' jokes, e.g. "Make me a sandwich." No. Just shut up.
-Being looked down and teased on for listening to heavier music and not 1D/pop

I also agree with everything Kiss Me Deadly. and consulting detective have said. I myself have had an incidence where I was whistled at like a dog, and this learner (driver) was showing off in the car next to mine when I was going to school, and my mum was driving.

I know there are tons of women's issues that I should be more concerned about, but periods Just no!

The fact that I need to worry about whether or not I have to shave my pubes before going swimming in a public swimming pool. Seriously, why can't I just fucking swim?

dru vs. slut shaming:

The fact that I need to worry about whether or not I have to shave my pubes before going swimming in a public swimming pool. Seriously, why can't I just fucking swim?

This so much. Drives me up the wall.

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Having to pluck my eyebrows every other day or risk being laughed at.

Automatically being put down as a guitarist before people have ever heard me play because I'm a girl and girls aren't good guitarists by default for some reason.

Being hit on by skeevy old men in the pub because I have breasts. Just no.

Well, I having a biologically female body, hate boobs, periods devastate me, I hate having a 'girlish' figure, I hate wearing two-piece bathing suits, I hate being told to "show more skin"; I hate when people tell women to "show less skin." I hate everything about it and how everyone says "well you were born a girl so deal with it" and refuse to listen when/if I tell them otherwise.

the idea that if I'm not married or haven't found a partner by age thirty, I'm a crazy cat lady

@ Ktulu
i don't want to be married until i'm thirty, but i'm also scared of the same thing.

I pretty much hate almost everything about being a woman.

@ dru brings sexy back
I've never worried about shaving my pubes in my life - but now that you've brought it up, I should probably check myself before I go in, woops.

The bitchiness. Ugh. So annoying and unneccessary. When my friends bitch, it's so annoying to listen to them go on and on and I'm just like, 'seriously, shut up. Nobody cares.'

the expectation of a woman to be emotional and in touch with her emotions at all times. No thank you. The best way to deal with emotions is ignoring them and being cold and distanced

@ swell
Eh, I don't find bitchiness to be a female trait. I have male friends who are as bitchy or more bitchy than my female friends.