if he did, he wouldn't even consider joking about that, I'm even more sorry to hear that, both the crush and the "joke". I'm sorry if anything like that happened to you personally and can't offer anything more than an ear to listen and a cyber-shoulder to lean on, if its not being too forward too fast of course
no matter what context, that's not something to joke about, I apologize for my entire sex, being ignorant, stupid and thoughtless toward you and for that matter every woman, my deepest apologies and here's to hoping I can show you that not all of us are bastards