Yeah, I know what you mean. But she's her and you're you, and you'll find someone (maybe that guy) who likes that you're you. Since she's like that, she'll react to things differently than you will, and that may not be as appealing as you. And she won't have the same views, and sometimes, regardless if that person is perfect, people will like imperfections. I know I like imperfections, but that's just me.
...that is true, about cruel people, but you have to ignore them.
Cruel people are, well, you know, cruel, they do it just to be mean, there's no -real- feeling behind their words, thus should not be listened to.
I -try- to be a decent person, I hope I accomplish it. ; ~;
I wish you luck. :D