What Defines a Family? - Comments

@ BlacknessAvenged
I understand what you're saying. Thank you for reading.

@ BriannaAlexzandra
That's really sad, I wish more people could be more understanding, or at least just say what happens in other peoples bedrooms is none of my business, unless I'm in there too. Hopefully some day people will get it.

@ BlacknessAvenged
I live in NYC but because of the schools I've attended and things like that, I guess I'm alot more prone to ridicule and things of that nature.

I'd like to say, I'm sorry that you had problems with your peers because of your parents, however, I'm wondering where you are, because in my experiences (I have not lived in a city for more than 3 years in my life, and I have been enrolled in 4 different public schools since I was 'out') bias against gays/ lesbians is not very prevalent, and in fact, the large majority of people are like 'uhm... you're not hitting on me right? ok. none of my business' or 'oh you two are so cute together'

I agree, but I wish there were more to this article. There is nothing within it that discusses the definition of family. It's not really an article. It's more of a personal anecdote to prove a point.

I read that there were studies showing that gay/lesbian couples actually had more parenting awareness. I agree with you completely on this. I don't see why people are so against same-sex couples, honestly. Anyway, I agree with the other commentators- this is a truly inspiring article.

I agree 100% with you. People who are gay or who have gay parents are looked at differently, like African Americans were looked at two centuries ago. People need to understand that love is love, and you don't need a man and a woman to be the "perfect family." Now, I believe in God, so I'm kind of bending the rules by saying gay people should live free and should do whatever they want (as long as it's legal). Tell your parents they ROCK fantastic article. Keep it up!

Absolutely Inspiring :] Some people need to stop being so stubborn and ignorant, after all Love is LOVE, no matter what gender ^_^

This article is really inspiring. You don't hear from too many children of homosexual couples, so this is pretty unique. It's so great what you're doing, trying to go against the disapproval of gay rights and share your story. I admire you ^_^

I've been trying to do the same thing myself, scolding people who use derogatory language toward homosexuals, but I'll probably never be able to do anything so powerful as this. Keep it up!

Thanks for this article. I myself am a lesbian, and I am 14. This article is inspiring to me, and I have to yet again say thank you

There's a political cartoon sort of thing going around Tumblr that shows a gay couple comforting each other over the denial of adoption papers, since they can't adopt a child...and then below that is a messed-up dirty household with a screaming mother and an absentee sort of father who have approved adoption papers sitting on their table. It's really true and really sad. I'm proud to say that I'm Christian and also a gay rights supporter. I don't think that anyone should be discriminated against just because of who they happen to fall in love with. I think family is all about how everyone is treated and how love is shared. Heaven knows that I would be much better off being raised by a loving gay couple than by the family I grew up with, which consists of a divorced, never-comes-down-to-see-his-kids dad for my brother/sister, a dad I've never met for me, and a dad that had a one-night stand with my mom which resulted in my little brother. As well as an abusive mother, emotionally and physically, who just last week had my siblings crying because of stupid shit they didn't deserve. So I agree with this one hundred percent. <3

I think the only thing that defines a family is love. As long as they love their child, that's all that matters.

This is actually part of what I'm covering for my Family and Sexuality class. I would honestly say that this is probably one of the most powerful articles I've read on here, mostly because you write from personal experience.
Personally, I don't think that children raised in same sex marriages (civil unions, couples, call them what you may) should be treated any different. If a pair of adults are emotionally, psychologically and physically ready to raise a child, or children then why not?

I think family means different things to different people. Traditionally speaking a family includes a father and a mother. I think having both in a child's life is beneficial, but that's not to say that having two moms or two dads is somehow harmful to a child and how they grow up. It's just different. I don't know any stats on the subject of children raised by same sex couples. It would have been a good idea to include that in this article.

Although I think your article is more of an opinion piece, I completely and wholeheartedly agree with you. I think gay and lesbian couples would make fantastic parents, and I feel a little warmth in my heart when I do see gay and lesbian couples with children.

I personally feel like there is no definition of family based on who is a part of it anymore. To me, family is the group of people who care for you and love you no matter what is who always make you feel safe. If you have that, who cares about who is making it up.

I was told by my Women’s Studies professor there have been a few studies done on children of gay and lesbian couples and they found that female children were less likely to put gender stereotypes on things like toys, careers, etc, and male children were less aggressive. I hope one day people will stop being so narrow minded and simply allow everyone to live peacefully.

Thank you for posting something that will have an impact. There's way too many people out there who are so close-minded about anything new, and I'm hoping that one day, through the efforts of wonderful people like you, everyone will be seen as equal. (I know, I know. It's a very slim chance. But I'm still rooting for it!)

Another thing that is totally irrelevant and just a product of my crazy fangirl mind: When you said something about family being people you love and who always care for you, then proceeded to list the different people who could be considered your family, I had a total "Supernatural" Bobby Singer moment and couldn't help but think, "Family don't end with blood." I know, totally irrelevant. Carry on!

Again, this was an amazing article and I hope you'll post more!:}

@ xXXCHAOSXXx It means a lot to me to know that something I said can have an impact on someone and while I know that we do not know each other personally, I want you to know that I'm here if you want to talk about something or just vent. I promise I'll listen and try to help out in any way I can.

@ lozzieee dwarf. Thank you. I'm planning on attempting to post more articles as time goes on because there's a lot more that I fell the need to express myself about. Keep watch for something else.

wow...for a really long time i've been searching for the definition of family myself. i was placed in foster care when i was 2, and then moved foster family again when i was 15. now that i've lived with one family for 13 years and my little brother is still there, and i also have some sort of "new family" where i am now, i don't know what family is and who (besides my brother) i am to count on forever, to feel unconditional love from, get support, and just feel as if i have a home somewhere. but i do have people who care about me, who i believe loves me, and at the very least i love them. Thank you!!! truly. you've made it easier for me to deal with this mess i've landed in, and helped me accept the people around me as family!

I LOVE THIS. Eloquently written, solid evidence provided, and a wonderful emotive speech to round it all off. Amazing; more articles like this need to be written!