Oh, your father is abusive? Don't let it affect your school work. - Comments

That's a long time not to see your Dad. I think you should complain to someone - this woman clearly hasn't helped you.

I disagree 'Dancing Caveman'
I've heard teachers say much worse things than this. And you weren't there with her at the councelor's office so you couldn't have known what she said.

Even though it may not be abuse towards HER it's still effecting her.
And while I feel that the councler did TRY to help, her words weren't the best.

And crying for your dad is perfectly normal, my dad abandoned my family for a while and while I hated him for it, I still cried when I didn't get a call from him within a two week time period.

And if you ever need to talk, I'm here :]

I actually think that's a bit insensative. I mean, true, it isn't realy abuse. It is wrong though, and does seem to affect you. Problem is, I don't think it was right that she said it like that. You shouldn't let it affect your work, right, but that shouldn't be the only thing. She should have been like talk to your mom, or say something like don't worry about it, he's a jerk. IDK. something a little more sensative

I doubt anyone in a school told you that. If there is ANY sort of abuse going on in a household, a school HAS to notify the state. Not doing so is illegal.

And besides, what you're describing isn't even abuse- it's abandonment, and your guidance counselor is right- you shouldn't let it affect your school work because if you start doing bad, you're never going to get out of the situation you're in.

I'm very sorry about what you're gonna through, hun.
And yeah, my school basically told me "too damn bad" when I started failing because of my father's insane mental abuse.