Questions On Bi-ness? - Comments

v I know you weren't trying to push anyone's buttons. But from the way you phrased your question -- i.e. that you don't understand how relationships involving more than two people can work because of jealousy issues, if I understand you correctly -- it sounds to me like you're starting from the assumption that the people in such a relationship would think of themselves as monogamous, which isn't generally the case, as far as I know. Maybe you should try to find some reading material on polyamory written by poly people?

I wasn't trying to say that all bi people do this or just bi people do this, I know straight and gay people do it too. Im just saying, I usally see it more in bi people, or at least where I live.

And I was not "judging" anyone, I wished to understand how it works and how do you mange it. Sorry if anyone choose to read it in that way or any other way. I gave a warning above that it wasn't meant to be rude but obviously people still think Im trying to push peoples buttuons. Bahaha.

Jinxeh said it. It's possible to be bi and poly, just as it's possible to be straight, gay, pan or queer and poly, but it's not exactly common, and it's not the default by any means. Being bi means your partner could be either male or female; it doesn't mean you want more than one, or that you can have more than one and still claim to be monogamous and faithful.

My girlfriend really hates this stereotype -- she's had a lot of douchebags suggest threesomes and that sort of crap. XD

Agreed with Audrey T.

Audrey T., Allie Ahmazing, and Jinxeh (those are the only comments I bothered to read) are all right :)

Agreed, Audrey T. Thing is, I hate it when a bi girl is dating more than one person, and people just talk shit about it because, "Oh, they're bending to that stereotype, and making other bi people look bad!" Uh, whatever. I'm friends with a married couple (man and woman) who also have a girlfriend they share. Some people aren't monogamous. Sometimes, these polygamous people just happen to be bi. It's no reason to think that all bi people are into polyamory, or that all straight people aren't. I actually know far more gay and bi people who are monogamous than I do straight people who are monogamous.

I've had a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. It didn't make any of us "greedy," or anything of the sort. It was just that we all cared for one another very much, and we were also very comfortable with the arrangement when we figured it all out. It had nothing to do with wanting more of anything, and I will be damned if anyone tells me that we all didn't give 100% to one another. Our relationship didn't last, but it didn't end because of jealousy, or anything of the like. We're all still great friends, even. Don't judge what you don't know, and have never experienced.

Audrey T., thats exactly what I mean, thats one of the points I was trying to get across but I know how to word it.

Dating is one thing, but I hate when bisexual people think that bisexuality means having both a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time. That's not at all what bisexuality is about. Not at all. It would be the same as a straight guy having two 'girlfriends.' Bisexuality doesn't mean that you no longer have to be monogamous.

Yes; Thats what I was wondering. Does it ever really work out? Does it ever really get serious when there are three people in a relationship.

Well I guess thats just considered 'dating' and you can date a lot of people at once but most likely it wont turn into something serious unless you stop seeing the other people. There are countess movies and books where people get into serious relationships with more than one person and none of them end well.

I knew this one guy that asked these two girls that were already going out to go out with him, so they're kinda going out in a threesome. Is that kind of what you mean? I think its more for a casual relationship, not a serious one.

I've seen worse spelling on this site. :D && I like the way it looks. :D Besides I've been spelling it that way forever. Im not going to change the way I write for what other people "like to look at".

I just don't see how it will work, the same wiff the whole "guys have two girlfriends" or "girls have to boyfriends" or "guys have 2 boyfriends", it just seems it much more common for girls who are bi to have a girlfriend and a boyfriend or a boy who has a girlfriend wiff a girlfriend.

To have a boyfriend and girlfriend at the same time is just... I don't like it at all. I've never done it and never will.

Well, it's the same as when straight or gay people do it. It doesn't really work...unless everyone involved knows that it isn't exclusive, then people can get upset and this can sometimes lead to raised voices.

I think you're supposed to just pick one person and nest for a while. By the way, you might get thrown out for spelling 'with' like that. No offence but it looks a little retarded.