What I Don't Get - A Teen's Biased Point of View. - Comments

MyNameisBob:

Thanks for your comment, as well as everyone else. ;) I understand yours and think that that isn't such a bad idea. There's nothing wrong with that, I believe.
And as for everyone else, I also understand your opinions, etc. Everyone has their own opinion. ^_^

Hmm, well I'm not into the whole no sex before marriage thing, but then I'm definitely not into the whole "car-hopping" thing either.

I'm 14 and I think I am too young to have sex but I'm not going to wait until I'm married for a number of reasons. One of them being sex actually plays an important role in mature relationships and can destroy a lot of relationships.

But I'm not going to be throwing my virginity anywhere either and I'm definitely not going to be car-hopping. I don't believe in The Mr Right, I think one person can have tons of different Mr Rights for different parts of their lives.

I'd rather wait until I'm entirely comfortable with myself and the relationship, have no peer pressure or any other reasons to do it other than that we both want to.

"The difference, though, between then and now is the teens these days have a choice. They're just not smart or mature enough to make the right ones."

Just because you don't approve of those choices doesn't make them wrong.

I guess people have sex between 13-17 because they're sexual beings. They're going to do it sooner or later. I guess some people just chose sooner rather then later. I'm still a virgin at the young age of 15 but that doesn't mean I believe in sex only after marriage.

I think that most people do practice safe sex by being on birth control and using condoms. Sometimes the birth control fails and the condom may slip off or break. Which over the case is, they still did practice safe sex. I suppose it also has to do with if they're ready physically, mentally and psychologically. Everyone is different in that category. No one can decide for someone else. However, I think having sex at the ages of 13 and 14 are a stretch. I'm sure if I ever found my son/daughter behaving in such a way at such a young age I wouldn't be too pleasant to be around for a while.

I may condone safe sex and sex among teens but I don't condone it when they're not being safe.

I agree. But then again, I can't think of sex without falling ill.
A friend of mine, 20s, had sex at 15 and regrets it fully.
I don't get it. It's like a must or something.

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Age of consent exists for a reason.

But you know, at the end of the day it's their decision, I think it's a stupid one, but who am I to stop them.

Most teenagers don't care until something like a pregnancy scare happens. Contraception isn't 100% effective. Like Shiznit said, condoms break, especially if they're not put on properly. How many 14 year olds know how to put a condom on properly? Not even the pill has a 100% success rate, especially if you're on the wrong one for you.

It's just a part of teens wanting to prove they're adults. Sex is something that exists mysteriously in the adult world and come on, from like the second you turn 13 there's a part of you going 'I just want to be treated like an adult' and sex is part of that world (along with alcohol, and to a lesser extent drugs).

If I knew a young teenager planning to have sex I would do everything I could to stop them, but at the end of the day it's a decision they have to make for themselves.

Whoa. I can't believe how a lot of people responded.
And...To be honest, what I truly just want to do is help these types of people. Those going through pressure...Teens who want attention...All that stuff. I just have this urge....Some sort of urge to help these people. =p i don't mean to sound like someone that knows a lot or a wannabe...But really, that's just how I feel inside. These are the types of things that make me think, ya know?

Y'all do know that condoms often break, right? I mean, how many teenagers do you think put them on right? And some girls won't go on the pill because they're either too embarrassed to go to the clinic, or they're afraid their parents would find it. Plus, birth control pills and patches don't protect against HIV and STI's.

So yeah. "Be safe" is great advice to give teens. Cause we're all just so good at being safe.

Arthur Weasley I agree.
And because were stupid, we are most likely just going to do whatever we want no matter what an adult tells us. So we might as well be safe as possible while doing the stupid things we do.

Teenagers are stupid and they're going to do stupid things. We can't tell them how to live their lives, we can only advice them to either not do it, or be safe when doing it.

v No, advising people to wait until they're, I don't know, maybe actually capable of handling it does not cause anywhere near the same problems as "yeah, go out and do it. Ruin your life, but be sure to use a condom."

Please. That is a stupid thing to say. Teenagers aren't good with impulse control. Encouraging them to make huge mistakes is unconscionable.

And yeah, I know plenty of people who things for reasons I would deem "stupid."

Shiznit: Neither does preaching abstinence. That creates even bigger problems than just emotional and mental problems. The main thing is to let people know how to stay safe and then allow them to make decisions themselves. Maybe they aren't smart or mature enough to make those decisions, but they're the ones making them, nobody else. It's best to teach about protection to prevent even more stress.

I don't know where you come from, but I don't know that many people who do things for reasons deemed "stupid".

Also, by saying something like, "for chrissakes, just wait until you're older, you're so stupid, 85%" is pretty pretentious.

No offence, of course. :]

I dunno, to some people sex isn't a sacred thing. It's just sex to them; if you really love someone, why not have sex? It's a moral gray area; a lot of the time, it just depends on how you were raised.

I know a lot of people who just give themselves away from age 14, sex on the second date, sexual acts with every boyfriend/girlfriend they have, and I think it's pretty disgusting on that level. They shouldn't be throwing away their body like free candy; it might get them into trouble. They'll hurt their reputation, hurt their personal lives, and maybe get diseases or get pregnant at a young age. (Birth control ain't 100%...)

Personally, I'd love to wait until marriage, but with society the way it is, that may or may not happen. At the very least, I'd like to be legal and I'd like to do it with someone I'd have a chance of committing to.

You know, teen pregnancy is nothing new. Look at the Dark Ages through the Renaissance; girls were getting knocked up at young ages because their fathers sold them off to older guys, and all women did in that time was spit out kids and cross-stitch.

The difference, though, between then and now is the teens these days have a choice. They're just not smart or mature enough to make the right ones.

v No, plenty of people do things for reasons that stupid. And no, it's nothing new, but it's worse now than it used to be. and please, don't compare it to the dark ages. People didn't know any better back then. Society knows a hell of a lot more now. We just disregard and ignore half of it. Yeah, 85% are that stupid.

No offense, but you kind of fall into that category. "Just be safe" isn't good enough. There are mental and emotional problems that can arise from sex that young, and contraception doesn't help that.

Also, I would just like to add that a lot of people - not just teenagers - have inferiority complexes, so they can easily give into peer pressure, i.e. being talked into sex when they don't want it.

*cough*Republican!*cough*

Just kidding.

You know, teen pregnancy is nothing new. Look at the Dark Ages through the Renaissance; girls were getting knocked up at young ages because their fathers sold them off to older guys, and all women did in that time was spit out kids and cross-stitch.

There's loads of reasons why teenagers have sex, and Jessie, I don't think it's because most of them do it for something to complain about. You really think 85% are that stupid? There's got to be a bigger reason than that. All teenagers are young, and for the most part, vulnerable, so getting into sex like that is just part of growing up. It just has to be done safely. That's why there's contraception.

Maybe they just fall in with the wrong crowd. Some people have shallow wishes, those only to be respected and popular. If you start hanging out with kids who like toking up and having sex, you'll want to impress them. You want to leave behind your babyish old self and start making anew with the cool kids.

Although Jessie. certainly had a point of wanting to cause drama and get attention, I also think that it has a lot to do with peer influences.

Yeah, I know, peer pressure, I sound like an eighties PSA shown in freshman Health Class. But it's grounded in truth. Nearly everything we do, if not out of necessity for survival, is to either please ourselves or others. Some people please themselves by pleasing others.

I agree with you. And Jessie.
People are always saying "it's not htat big a deal, it's a personal choice." Yes, it is a personal choice. A bad one, in my opinion. I mean, when you're that young, I'm sorry, I don't care who you are, you're not ready for the baggage that comes with sex. You're just not. It may not seem like a big deal at the time, but I can guarantee that it's going to mess you up in some way or another. And when you're older, you'll likely realize that, and then it'll be too late.

People should really just wait til they're older.

You're welcome. =)