Some Advice Please? (you have to be open minded) - Comments

I think you should go out and live your life and not worry about this guy. You are clearly too good for him. You have your life ahead of you and from what you wrote, he sounds like a big loser with no job and no prospects. I'd cut him out of your life and consider yourself lucky you got out of it before your life was ruined by him.

hey guys. get this. i talked to his wife, and apparently, he cheated on her three times, once before they were going to get married, when she was pregant with his daughter and with me.. IM SO PISSED. he is a pig.

uhhh. things are getting worse. he deleted and blocked me off everything. including facebook and msn. he will not talk to me at all, im not sure if were free to see other people. it really hurts me to think anout him with another girl but should i move on. how long should i wait?

I think he's just another dumbass guy. Age has no matter in that. You have the right to be upset, but don't let that consume you. Move on. Find someone else. Obviously if he's going to dump you over the age thing after nine months together then he wasn't truly committed to it. Regardless of age, just treat it like another failed relationship. It happens.

I do think the age difference is a bit ridiculous, but I don't think you're wrong for feeling the way you feel. Nobody can tell you how to feel. Nobody. And maybe I'm not one to talk because my cousin is marrying someone ten years older than her and my mom is five years older than my dad (he was eighteen when they met). Anyway, I think how he's feeling is understandable as well--I mean, it is a big age difference. But you're not in the wrong for wondering why he didn't think about that months ago. Something you should know is that a lot men (and I've learned this from my parents' divorce) is that they hate to show their true feelings. They don't want to seem weak or feminine or whatever. But maybe he thought things were getting too serious between you two and he just couldn't deal with that pressure anymore knowing that you were underage. Maybe he didn't want to take your youth and innocence and stuff away because he was so much older than you. I don't know.

But that's just what I think. As for what to do, I have no idea.

thanks guys. i was feeling so bummed. thank god for mibba friends. you guys are right. maybe a break is needed. he's putting his feelings above me, and i think thats what hurting me. but im not going to force him to be in a relationship with me, although I probably could, but what kind of "girlfriend" would do that. and i guess i owe him the respect of leaving him be. if he did love me, and he is willing to dump me like he did, he probably REALLY needs the break. he will still be the town pedophile. that wont change for a while, maybe it will stay forever. but i hope he will see how much i loved him and ill be here for him when he gets over his feelings.

Oh, well, since it's sixteen that changes things.

I still say give him some space, if he thinks that other peoples opinions are more important than his feelings for you then he isn't a good person to be with, y'know?

Maybe he'll come to terms that all that matters is how he feels, but if not, then there's nothing you can really do.

I do hope that you find your happiness though. With or without him. =)

Although i know you can't go back in time, i think you should have just kept your relationship reasonable casual till you were actually 18. Just be interested, but take it very slow. I see why your upset, but really it would be terrible to be the pedophile in a town. Especially since many teenagers (like me) love to make pedophile jokes. Just wait a while, see what happens. Pressure might have just made him say something he regrets. Just don't go running back into his arms if he suddenly just gets all nice. Maybe both of you just need this little break. Just to get things all together and really think over everything.
(By the way, i may not have any relationship experience of any kind, but i always think that even a crazy girls opinion at least helps a bit. )

I know Jewel Nicole, but in Canada, sixteen is the legal age. The police questioned us, but since i consented, there was nothing they could do.

I know, tiny heart. He said he loved me, and thats why he dumped me. Cause he "didn't want to hold me down from being a teen" but he hasn't been . ive been going out and having a good time without him and he knows it. uhh. i just want to know why all of a sudden he did this .. could it be somebody else?

In my opinion, as long as both people are of age then there isn't really an issue. You're seventeen, I understand, you're almost eighteen, but not yet. It's still really against the law, y'know?

You should have just waited until you were eighteen to get into a relationship with him because it could end up really since it's illegal.

Now, since you've already been involved with him and he's decided to break-up with you, I say that you just give him some space. I know that you love him and he probably loves you, but it's just a horrible situation to be in. Especially if the law gets involved, y'know?

Maybe you should just wait until you're eighteen and see if your relationship will work then. If not then it wasn't meant to be. But if you get with him later, there is still that age difference and people will talk. Just be prepared and hopefully you two can get through it.

Best of luck. =)

thank you.. but it confuses me cause he came after me in the begining. obviously he has changed. it was probably the people name calling him that ended up getting in his head. i don't know what to do. i just want to drill him with questions and like.. inbox him and stuff. but i don't want to seem like a crazy ex.

If he honest to God loved you, he would want to be with you no matter what and wouldn't care about what anyone else thought.
My opinion? Dump him. Find someone better. You're better than that, and you deserve better.

To me, age isn't an issue when it comes to love. But, if he left you because of the age issue, then it seems like he didn't love you enough. You should be with someone who will stick with you through anything.

And being upset is a natural response. You have a right to feel however you want.