I feel like a terrible person. - Comments

I know just how you feel -- about the being okay part, that is. When my dad threatened to kill himself and went off looking for his gun, the police had to go out and search for him all day while my mom drove me to my aunt's house in hysterics. My family kept saying things like, "This must be so hard for you," and, "What do you think about all this?" and, really, I didn't think much of it. I had nothing to say, nothing to feel. I wasn't worried, I wasn't upset. I felt fine while the rest of my family was clearly afflicted and terrified.

I guess it's just how some people deal with things.

Thank you all. I'm just used to being the most worried for her, so I felt a little bad about leaving her problems for her to deal with.

You may be in a state of shock. That's the way I always am if I'm worried about someone and something bad happens, I simply take awhile to asses the situation and when it finally hits me, it hits me hard. I don't think you're a terrible person, as you said, you've worried so much that you can't anymore.

The best love is the kind that weakens the soul, and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that's what you've given me, and that's what I hope to give to you for ever.

I don't think that makes you a bad daughter. People all have different ways of dealing. Some cry and mope, and some distract themselves and surround themselves with people who will make them happy. It's perfectly understandable, I wouldn't feel terrible about it.

Like you said, maybe you've worried so much that you cant worry anymore. I don't think it makes you a terrible person. I think you'll probably be more worried or upset by it later.