Wow. Sorry to write you a book there. =/
August 10th, 2011 at 06:00am
If you're in a loving relationship, none of that will ever happen. If any of that does happen, it isn't love, and you need to get out of that relationship ASAP and tell someone you trust if you feel like you're in danger by doing so (I'm talking an adult, your parents or something who will know how to keep you safe).
If you're not ready for a relationship, then let yourself get over your issues. You have no reason to fear love itself, because love comes in many forms and love will never hurt you. You don't have to be afraid, especially, of your own feelings. But it's understandable if you're uncomfortable with the idea of dating someone.
Sit back and think: Is this someone you truly, fully trust? If so, do they know about your past? If you trust this person and you feel like you CAN commit to a relationship, make sure they know and understand your fears and insecurities. (If you aren't comfortable enough to talk to them about this past relationship, you probably don't trust them enough to date or to truly love them in the first place and maybe it should be a no-go for now.) If you date someone, they need to understand you and why you may react to certain things in certain ways, why you may be suspicious or anxious about certain things, and why you need to always take things slowly. If you trust them to respect that, and it feels right, go for it. If you're not sure if you can trust them or you don't feel like a relationship, with them or anyone else, is right for you, then give yourself time.
In short, just go with your gut and your heart, and make sure you have people you trust to help you if anything goes wrong.