Sex is like... - Comments

Where I live, you're weird if you actually do want to wait after marriage.
I don't think I know a single person who believes in no sex before marriage...

Sex, sure, it's good and all, but it's not all that and a bag of chips...
Or maybe it's just me bored out of it, since I work at an erotic shop and have it in my face all the time...
That and maybe the fact that I haven't gotten laid in over 8 months(wow, has it been that long?!) and may have forgotten how it even feels like may help a bit here.

The way I see it, I'm just not one of those people that can have causal sex. It's either love or it's nothing at all.
I kind of find the bare gratification of lust, well, unsatisfying. Although I may reach point O and relieve major stress during it, it still leaves me feeling empty.
And truth be told, most of the guys you have causal sex with are only looking out for their own asses and don't care if you orgasm or not, they just want to empty their balls as soon as possible, very disappointing.

Seriously? My vibrator can do waaaaay better and I don't need a smelly guy whenever my hormones are raging and I get horny.

But sex with someone you really love?
Not that is something else entirely... :D

The UK doesn't seem to have this 'sex after marriage' stigma, well not that I know of, I don't think I've met a Brit who said they wanted sex after marriage, on here I notice a lot of American users on here who believe in it.
Maybe it's a cultural thing, the US is very religious, it's not over here, there is religion in the UK but it stays in the churches and out of schools and politics.

I'd respond to this, but I honestly don't know.
I didn't grow up with the whole, "Wait till marriage." thing, but my parents did say I should wait until I was ready. Well, mostly my mom.
She started having sex at 13, and, well, her mother made her have an abortion at 15, and she had a miscarriage at 16. She had me at 20. Guess that's why I never got that speech. And we're not that religious...

In my family they never tried to tell us to wait until marriage, they just told us to be safe about it. My grandma had a baby at 17, my aunt at 16, and my cousin at 17. They weren't about to tell us not to do it because they knew we wouldn't listen because they did it.

But I only decided to do it because my body was ready, we had the protection needed, people that needed to know about it knew (like parents and doctors) and I love him. Like honestly I'd do anything to keep this boy in my clutches forever.

My brain just shut down, I can't think of whatelse I was going to say... okay, byebye :)

Personally, I chose to have sex before marriage and I have never once regretted it. Guess what, I didn't get pregnant, and I didn't die.

I am so fed up with the notion that you shouldn't have sex unless you're ready to have a baby. It's entirely possible to be ready for sex and not ready for a child. It's just not the same thing, and anyone who says it is clearly does not understand that level of intimacy and is not ready for it themselves.

That being said...it's hard to tell what sex is "like" because it depends entirely on the mood and such, but I was fortunate enough to lose my virginity to someone that I genuinely love, and I think that did make a huge difference. I don't know that I personally could have casual sex because I have intimacy issues and I wouldn't be able to trust someone enough if it was just a casual fling (though I have no problem with casual sex in general so if that's your thing go for it, I'm sure it's loads of fun). I just think that, for me, the kind of relationship I'm in definitely affects what the sex is like. I can't imagine it being like this with anyone else.

I don't have a nifty analogy like you do, though. Sorry. =(