{Spanking Your Kids..} - Comments

Agreed. You dont know those parents, you dont know their parenting skills.
Parents who spank their kids, or tap them are just showing them the wrong they did. Not abusing them in anyway. They dont know what other things they did before resorting to spanking. Its been known kids who get spank learn that what they did was wrong faster. Yelling out "no" all the times doesnt always work. Like my niece you can tell her "no" million times she doesnt understand. You tap her on the hand, she starts to listen.

Same here. I had friends who were spank,grounded, and their just fine. Just like me. Nothing is wrong with them. Yes, it can go too far there is a right and wrong way aboutgoing with spanking. But people think of is as abuse anyway you put it.

Agreed. I think it's extremely hypocritical to generalize parents who do. "Oh, children who are spanked act out, become aggressive and out social, and don't make valuable personal connections. Parents who spank are simply lazy parents who don't know how to handle kids at all. You shouldn't be parents!" Simply just get out. Who are you to judge parents you haven't even met? And you say we are the ignorant ones?

Perhaps those consequences happen to some children, I won't deny that. It hasn't happened to me though. I'm well-adjusted. I go to one of the best universities in my country. I have friends. While I do have a temper, which I've always had, I'm not explosive. I don't see what the big hubbub. A lot of my friends were spanked as well, and they're just fine too.

Agreed. I have no problem with people not believing in spanking their kids, thats fine. But when they start to force their parenting skills down your throat then yes it becomes a problems. Or says they only reason parents spanks their kids because their lazy.

Well, as said, some people do not approve of corporal punishment. That is fine and good if they do not, but they should not force their own parenting skills on others. That is when it becomes a problem.

V. Totally agree. I was put in time out, they did that and sometimes it didn't work. So my parents tap me or spank me, not hard just enough to make me realize what I was doing was wrong. My parents never beat me or anything. And Im just fine. Same here, if I talk back, I couldn't do anything, stay in my room. Couldn't play with friends. But parents didnt always resort to spanking but they did use it in some cases. People need to realize spanking kids is not abuse. But no matter how hard someone explains it dosent help.

Exactly. It showed me my transgressions, and they always talked to me and told me specifically what I did was wrong, so in psychological lay men terms I "connected the dots." And it's not like I was always spanked for everything I did. I was grounded, put in time out, and other things of the like. It varied on what I did. If I simply talked back, I probably got video games taken away for a few days.

People make parenting such a black and white subject, which is wrong on their part. It depends on cultural standards and familial traditions.

V. You are amazing. Same here. I was spank when I was little, and I turn out just fine. My parents were not lazy, they showed me what I did was wrong. And I learn that. I wasnt abuse. I was showed right from wrong. It is wrong that people say parents are lazy, because their not. It shows kids what they did was wrong.

vv. Its not. But saying "no!" about a million times doesnt always work. Yes parents look for something else but sometimes in the end taping their kids helps. It lets the child know what they did was wrong. Beating them, yes that is abuse. But taping them showing them wrong, no its not. And I dont feel like starting this again...

In my opinion, spanking is abuse and I'll personally never agree or condone the act. Whether it be a 'tap' or a full hit, it is abuse in my eyes. Spanking should never be a first resort for a parent, it shouldn't be the first form of discipline a parent turns to. If spanking is necessary, it should be a last resort and done no sooner than a last resort.

On a personal level, my brother and I were spanked as a kids, and we turned out just fine. When I was completely in the wrong, I would get a spanking and I never repeated the act again. It taught me a lesson.

I think that is what is wrong with some kids today; some people say that spanking is the "lazy" parent's way out? I take personal offense to those remarks. My parents are wonderful and loving. Stop generalizing.

Open handed spanking on the bottom or hand is punishment. Open hand or closed fist anywhere else is abuse. Failure to realize that is proving your ignorance and your stupidity. honestly its even proven that pain is the strongest tie to memory thus making it effective to getting the child to learn that what they did is wrong sending them to the corner or talking to them is the most futile attempt at parenting trust me my dad and step mom use that method most of the time and it does not work I got my ass whooped as a child and I turned out great whereas my sisters are not so good and even got in deep trouble which involved the cops just the other week. The person this is meant for will know who she is.

I don't even consider slapping a kid 'abuse', let alone spanking.

You could try. Wont get you anywhere. Trust me, I have tried. They can't seem to know the difference...

Can people please define what 'tapping' is to them? Because if my idea of tapping certainly could not be deemed abuse.

V. You. are.awesome! Couldn't have said it better myself.

I agree 10000000000%

It's utterly ridiculous how some people act.

It's like, okay, and you're wondering what's wrong with kids these days? Why they have no respect? Because you raised them without actual consequences for their actions.

Your fault, bro.

/rant.

V. Thank you. I'm just saying its a way to let the kid know what their doing is wrong if their not suppose to be doing something. Yelling "no" doesnt always work. I've seen it and it doesnt. Sometimes taping them helps. I know not everyone sees that, I understand. About saying everything is abuse, isnt right.

I don't believe it's abuse, but I don't think it's the completely ethical way to discipline your kids. I think that it teaches kids that if they make a mistake, again, they're going to be physically hurt. As teenagers, or adults, we don't see it as that. We see it as learning a lesson. I just think that it makes a small child feel fear. I respect your opinion, though.

V. I agree. There is a wrong way and a right way. And I explain that. There's a difference between abuse and spanking your kids. Taping them its abuse. Going about hitting them until they turn red or leave a bruise is. I just wish people understood the difference. In no way am I telling people how to raise their kids, no. I would never do that. I just want them to see the difference.

My brother and I were both spanked as kids.
I don't see anything wrong with as long as you're not disciplining your kids in ANGER.

Both my mom and dad, well, it was mainly my dad, but when we would get spanked, he talked to us first. I never got spanked in anger.
My parents never left bruises or anything, but I got spanked with a belt. I've had to go pick my own hickory before, but that's more of a threat than anything. I live in the South, so that's normal.

Whatever works with your kids, fine, unless you're abusing your kids, like leaving bruises and marks, it's not anyone's business on how you discipline your children. I just don't think it's right for someone to tell someone else how to raise their kids. Some things work with some kids, and other things work with other kids. It's a trial and error thing.

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