So...sex? - Comments

My lovely Twin:

Please do not take any bullshit this boy is feeding you. You are lovely, intelligent, beautiful, and you have so much to offer to any other special boy that treats you right!

As much as he's trying to get you to think that you have to do this, you really do not; 100%!
He's my age, and he sounds like a bunch of the teenage boys I have running around up here in Canada eh, (hehe) and I think it would be a good idea to let him move on to another girl that will give herself to him. it might be hard if you're even a little emotionally invested, but I promise that if you let this boy talk you into having sex, you will regret it. I know I certainly did!

I suppose all-in-all, do what you think is best. I know you're a strong girl that knows what's right for you!
Love you!
<3

My lovely Twin:

Please do not take any bullshit this boy is feeding you. You are lovely, intelligent, beautiful, and you have so much to offer to any other special boy that treats you right!

As much as he's trying to get you to think that you have to do this, you really do not; 100%!
He's my age, and he sounds like a bunch of the teenage boys I have running around up here in Canada eh, (hehe) and I think it would be a good idea to let him move on to another girl that will give herself to him. it might be hard if you're even a little emotionally invested, but I promise that if you let this boy talk you into having sex, you will regret it. I know I certainly did!

I suppose all-in-all, do what you think is best. I know you're a strong girl that knows what's right for you!
Love you!
<3

If you love me, you'll do it? Break up with him right now! You do NOT need to be with anyone who is a) pressuring you into something you don't wan to do, b) being manipulative with your emotions or c) pulling the love card after a week and a half. No no no. He is not as sweet as you think if he's pulling that. It will only get worse. Leave him for your own good.

Dude, he's implying that you love him after only a week and a half? Uh, no.
Sounds like he has quite a large ego, and honestly? Take it from me, sex is kind of a big deal no matter what age you are. You are literally giving your body to someone, as well as your mind. Don't do anything that you aren't ready for.
And when you are ready, you will know, because you won't be questioning your choices. It will just feel right :)

To me, having sex for the first time wasn't that big of a deal, it just felt right. Don't do it unless you're 150% sure it's right for you. You can talk to him all you want about it and he obviously feels different, but if he really, really cares he'll stop pressuring you and wait.

Sex is a big deal and its not old fashion, its wise to wait. you shouldnt feel the need to screw someone because thats their rep. its a bad one and u shouldnt get sunck into it. he should respect you or hes not worthy of you.

You wanting to wait until you are married to have sex in no way makes you a bad girlfriend. But him pulling the "if you loved me you'd do it" card after only a week and a half when he knows how you feel about sex is not okay, it is making him into a bad boyfriend. Sorry, no offence. Sex is a beautiful thing and shouldn't be regretted but respected because it is the joining of two bodies in reverence to two people's feelings for one another. Communicate to him exactly how you feel and if he still cannot respect your life decisions then you have some reevaluating to do. In my opinion, the fact that he pulled the card and is trying to pressure you into sex when you aren't comfortable with is sketch and sounds like he might have ulterior motives. Don't let him pressure you if it isn't what you want. Best of luck to you and I hope everything works out.

You've been dating a week and a half. Even if you just look at this as what is expected of people in relationships, he's a very impatient boy.

Don't let him pressure you into giving up your beliefs. This is one belief that you can't take back.

Wtf who loves someone after dating them a week?... Sorry but that is ridiculous.
This guy has got to be a major jerk. Sorry. I would never pressure anyone into that.

To me it seems like this guy just wants sex with you. What kind of a guy tells you " if you love me you will do it" that's not a good boyfriend. A caring and honest boyfriend will not pressure you and not bring it up early in the relationship if he knows your not ready.
If i were you i would wait more until you know him better. You will regret it later if hes just using you for sex and he leaves you when he has gotten what he wanted.

It really makes me feel a lot better that you guys agree with me on this. I've been feeling like a horrible girlfriend because of it, and I needed some support (:

It means a lot <3

Do not let him guilt you into doing crap you dont feel like doing. If you feel as if its not right, then do not do it. No matter if he says crap like "if you love me, youll do it." No. If he loved you, he wouldnt try to talk you into doing something your not comfortable or even okay with doing. Just.....dont let him take advantage of you, kay? Kay:)

If he can't wait for you and respect your boundaries, then he is not the best one for you and you are not the best one for him. People are ready for sex at different times and have different boundaries, it sounds like you two have very different boundaries which may be the downfall of your relationship. You two may just not be meant for one another.

If you feel you're not ready for sex and don't want to do it, stand your ground. Tell him you're not ready and ask him to stop pressuring you. If he continues, perhaps it is time to reevaluate your relationship and whether or not it is a good one to be in. He seems to be more open about sex, so it may be best for him to find a girl who is more open about sex and one not wishing to wait until marriage. There's nothing wrong with wanting to wait until marriage because as I said, everyone has different boundaries and different ideas when it comes to sex. But you need to be with someone who shares your sentiments. Having different views on sex can be very troubling with a relationship and make it difficult to maintain.

The simple truth is you two may just not be meant for each other. If he continues to pressure you, maybe you should take a good look at your relationship with him and decide the best course of action. Don't let anyone pressure you into sex, do it when you feel ready to. Whether that be before or after marriage, only do it when you feel ready to. Never do it because you feel pressured to. Sex is an important part of a relationship and if the two people in said relationship have opposing views such as you two, it can make the relationship rocky. The best option may be for you two to go your separate ways and find another who shares similar views on sex instead of such opposing views like you and your current boyfriend have.

It's your choice, do what you feel is best for yourself. Good luck.

If you don't feel like doing it, then don't. Tell him with all the letters THIS IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN, and stick to it, make him understand it's important to you.

The only problem is, if sex is VERY important to him, he may want to move on, it's his choice and you sort of need to be ready for that.

"If you love me, you'll do it." <-- That right there should you make you evaluate your relationship because 99.9% of the time that guys say that is to guilt you into having sex with them. DON'T give in if you know you're not comfortable with it. If he really cared, then he'd say "you know what, I understand and I don't mind waiting." It's bullsh*t when guys try to you guilt into you it by saying you don't love them. If you want to wait until marriage then good for you and stick to your guns. Sorry but if he can't respect that, then perhaps you need to find someone who IS willing to meet you halfway. I'm sorry again, but if he's already pressuring you after a week, then something is off here.

Don't do something that you're not comfortable with. If he loves you then he wouldn't pressure you.