i didnt know where else to turn to but u guys, but i need help please please read this please....? you guys r the only ones i relate to in a way and a simple advice would help :/ - Comments

@ NaturalBornKiller.
You're welcome doll!

@ NaturalBornKiller.
I just did hon, I'm wishing you strength.

@ Doku_Fate

@ Rita_Haner

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@ raroman

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@ LadyxXxShadows
I posted up something that I sent him. Hopefullly its worth him and you to read :)

@ Doku_Fate

@ Rita_Haner
Thank u very much guys. U don't know how much that means to me. I love u and thank u so much. I feel much better as a person.

Though I personally have never cut, I know its a very serious thing. And I have had a couple friends that cut themselves and i know how bad it can get. I also hate to see people get to that point, it breaks my heart.
As far as your boyfriend goes, it seems to me, this is just my personal opinion, that though I understand if he was mad with you because you did cut when you said you weren't {not trying to be mean about that i promise} as a boyfriend he should be there for you to care and to help you thru this. Him being that way seems immature and very selfish. I know that if i was in this situation with my boyfriend, he may would be upset but he would work with me make sure i am ok find out the problems ect. In my opinion thats just mean it really is.
I really hope things work out for you and you get thru this point in your life.

Okay i'm gonna be honest, though it hurt saying this, but i was a cutter too. It's been two months since i did that for the last time. and my mother, a friend of mine and my father knows about what i did and my mom was pretty pissed off with me and she was the one who made me stop. In my opinion, he's being rude.. i'm sorry to say this, but he's supposed to be helping you, to make you stop for once and for all. If he's your best friend and your ex, and he's the only one who knows, and if he loves you, i mean REALLY LOVES YOU, he should help you.. There's one thing that my mom said... ' what if you died while cutting...?' i know this might sound, idk, strange or whtever, but i know how cutting feels like, and i know theres thousands of people doing the same thing, but since you're telling here that you cut yourself... please don't do it. i know it's hard, i know it's easier said than done, but believe me, once you stop and think that you don't need that to release the pain, range, sadness... you'll start to see life from another point of view. you'll start to see yourself differently. you'll start to release what's inside of you in another way. I really wish that i was your friend so i could help you, because now, i don't like when i read or see that people are cutting to release their feelings. There's other ways of doing that. Please don't hurt yourself. 5 months without cutting it's a victory, so don't ruin that now, please. And if you ever want to talk about anything, you can message me. i know we don't know each other, but i really want to help you :) so if you need anything, just inbox me, and i'll be here for you :)

All I can say is I agree with everyone. He should be helping you, not making you worse. I hope you two are able to talk again, but if not, you deserve better anyways. I'm so proud of you for going 5 months without cutting! <3 I know you don't know me, but seriously, that's amazing! haha. I'm sure you're an awesome person, don't let anyone or anything get you down :)

Anytime doll. You know I'm always here for you!

Well damn. I agree with everything said below. Hope you feel better hon, and if a boy ever guilts you, don't let those feelings of doubt overpower you. Stay strong,
-Raroman

@ NaturalBornKiller.
No problem, boo! You don't have to pay anybody back (at least not me ); we just want you to be okay.

@ LadyxXxShadows

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@ whimsical waves

@ born from a wish

@ the blissfully dead

@ addesin

I knew u guys would help me out !!! Thank u thank u I love u!!! U made me cry and feel special thanks a bunch idk how to repay u in anyway
XOXOXO -Zee

First off, you should only stop cutting if you want to, not because someone is forcing you and manipulating you and guilt tripping you into quitting. Cutting is your thing, your problem to deal with, your thing to work out, not his or anybody else's. It takes time to stop and it can be a long journey. You can't expect yourself to quit cold turkey and never have the urge again. And you can't expect yourself to be perfect and always be able to fight the urge when it does come. You're human and you make mistakes and people need to deal with it. If he can't handle that and still love you then that's his fault and maybe he doesn't really deserve you.

That being said, just give him time. He's upset and he just had his trust in you compromised. He's hurt and probably worried and scared for you. He just wants you to be okay and it hurts him to see you hurt yourself. Just give him time to calm down. He has his own things to sort out. Wait a few days and send him a text or an email or something with everything you want to say. He may not respond right away but you have to let him come back to you. If he does, you need to have a serious talk about what you both need from this relationship. If he doesn't, then it wasn't a strong enough relationship to begin with and you both will just have to accept that things didn't work out.

If he does come back to you, you need to talk though. You need to tell him that if you stop cutting, you can't do it alone or without support. You tell him that he needs to accept that your not perfect and if he can't handle that, a relationship wont work, and you have to accept his imperfections in the exact same way. You need him to remind him why you're together, what you love about him, and how much you mean to him, but also the things about yourself that he may not like and the things that could possibly break the relationship if he can't handle it. You also need to listen to his side of the story, too. If you two can reach some sort of agreement or compromise, then you can start trying to rebuild the relationship. If not, you have to step away because trying to continue while you're both unhappy, it will only end in more drama and disaster and one of you (or both) will end up hurt.

I hope this helps in some way...

@ whimsical waves
Aw! I've given you advice?

You should be so proud of yourself for going five months without cutting. I understand how hard it is to stop. It's been almost four months since I last cut and the past months have been hell and I've had to find something else to depend on.

Your boyfriend should be supportive of you, not ignoring you because you had a relapse. I'm sorry, but he clearly doesn't understand the mental state of someone who cuts. You don't just give it up straight away and go cold turkey. It's impossible. You're going to have days when you itch for it and days when you don't even think about it, and if he can't appreciate how hard you're trying, you should probably rethink things.

I personally think he should feel honoured that you're trying to give up for him. He should be sticking with you throughout all of this if he's telling you to stop. Cutting is like any other addiction and depending on how heavily you rely on it, you won't be able to just stop. Don't ever feel like you did anything wrong or feel guilty, because anyone who's trying to stop cutting is an amazing , strong person. It can take a lot to make you want to stop and some people never do because they never find a reason or want to. The only thing i would say is that he can't push you into anything. If he's demanding or being a twat in general then you need to tell him to just shut the fuck up, because giving it up isn't just going to stop.

I really hope you work things out with him and if you ever need to talk about absolutly anything, message me or whatever. I found that when I was first trying to stop self harm, talking to other people who cut really helped, because they get it. It helped me to help other people too and it still is. So seriously, talk to me it you ever want to.

Stay strong. Don't forget what a special, brave person you are, even if the people around you make you think otherwise.

<3 xo

To be blunt, I think you should dump him. You don't need someone who is going to be angry and say hurtful things when you have a relapse. You want someone who will be understanding of your problem and will encourage you in your effort to quit.

I agree with LadyxXxShadows. She's given me some helpful advice in the past, and I do agree with her opinion. Any true friend would help you, not shut you out.

Hey, if anybody at all tries to force you into stopping, they're not worth your time. You went an entire five months without cutting, that's so, so amazing! You should be so proud of yourself for doing that. It's okay to have slip-ups some times, I started self-harming almost eight years ago, and sometimes I can go months without doing it, once I went almost a year. But your slip-ups aren't the end of the world. And him treating you like that shows that he is not a true friend. Try emailing him some information about it and then give him space. If he's going to continue to make you feel worse then he's not worth your time and it's his loss if he loses you over this.

If you managed to go for so long without cutting you can do it again :) Every day you don't do it is a victory and you should be proud of yourself. Keep at it <3

Well...what I'm going to say may make me sound mean, but it's my opinion. If he was a real and true friend, he would understand and wouldn't be treating you this way. Everyone slips up, but like you said...you were honest with him.

He should be helping you through this instead of throwing in the towel, ignoring you and acting like a jerk. Don't be too mad at yourself for what you did. You had your reasons and you are human. You will make mistakes.