virgins || what the hell || i'm so disappointed in our generation - Comments

Being 14, I can easily name at least 10 other girls in my class who have had sex. It's just a thing now (I blame reality tv) where no one really cares about sex. It's not bad parenting, if you think your 13 year old daughter is out with her friends but is really having sex then it isn't the parents fault, they're none the wiser.
You obviously being an adult look at situations like this and state your opinion, but someone like me who's stuck in the middle of this, I'm constantly looked down on for never having a boyfriend, but when I look at it these girls 'boyfriends' are normally 17 years old.
I don't agree with what you are saying but I'm not disagreeing, I'm just so used to it .

I don't give a crap what the definition of virginity is, I don't care what the whole concept of virginity is. What bothers me is that kids who don't know crap about sex or how to protect themselves are having sex and risking the possibility of getting an STD or getting pregnant. STD's are very dangerous and most 13 year olds are NOT mature enough to take care of a baby. I don't care about giving yourself away to the wrong person, not respecting yourself- screw that. I don't care. You're putting yourself in potential danger if you're having sex without knowing how to do it safely.

@ fitzpleasure
No, I'm just saying your definition of virgin is wrong, so a bunch of people you're claiming aren't virgins are... so how does one debate when the definitions aren't even accurate?

@ close dru's eyes.
So are you saying that since virginity isn't important it doesn't matter that kids are having sex at age 12 and 13?

I disagree on two fronts. One, loss of virginity is having sex. Two, virginity was constructed by men who thoight their penises were so imprtant they changed who a woman fundamentally is.

virginity is a social construct?? I wanted to state that because it might be of value to someone, yo

and I feel like the majority of people posting about their disappointment feel like that because your cousin is sexually active and they're not? I have a thirteen year old cousin too and I would be breaking necks if I found out that someone was having sex with her because kids that age can't consent.

This is kind of a personal question. But I have a weird question. If I have been touched inappropriately, without my consent, would I no longer be considered a virgin? That question came to mind after reading this blog. It has something to do with what happened in my past. I don't usually talk about it. Please don't judge me. I just want to know what your opinion would be.

I'm eighteen and a virgin. I'm disappointed too in our generation. Kids don't take sex seriously. We all know how it affects people physically with Stds and pregnancies but its also an emotional thing as well. A girl in my neighborhoodgot expelled from school for having anal sex in boys bathroom. She was 12. I didn't even know anal sex existed when I was 12.

i find it disappointing that i haven't even gotten my first kiss yet

@ Neon'
I disagree with that. Not everyone has to have a lot of sexual experience or can't be virgins. -_-" Different things suit different people. we all live our lives the way we want to.

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I don't blame you for getting upset. If my cousins were that age and were doing that kind of stuff, I'd be upset too but luckily their mom won't let them, neither will the rest of my family.

Wow. This... I can't believe our society has come to this. Where children want to have sex. What happened to the good old fashioned waiting until you are married to the right person. I am 17 and have never been kissed. I don't even want to think about doing those kind of things until I have a wedding band on my finger. That is my personal opinion.

But I feel for you. My sister is turning twelve this year and if I heard things like that come from her, I would be shocked too.

Despite the comments that are happening right now, I totally get you, girl. My sister is thirteen and if I heard her say she did the same things, I just, jc, I wouldn't be able to handle it. (Partly also because I've yet to experience those things, lol).

If you haven't fucked at least 10 people by age thirteen, there's something seriously wrong with you and you're probably deformed and/or socially inept. Those are my two cents.

Oh my God. These comments. She was expressing her absolute shock of her little cousin's sexual history. You CHOSE to be offended. Calling her a 'slut shamer' is almost identical to how she wrote her opinions about her relative being 'too young', only you are targeting this user for expressing herself. You are calling her names. How dare you? She obviously wasn't talking to you personally. Those who got offended need to get over themselves. You've made your own decisions knowing how it may or may not make you appear to others. Just because it can be associated to you does not mean it shouldn't ever be spoken about; you're not that important to where others have to censor every single thing they say in order to avoid the chance of 'insulting' you. All in all, this writer has every right to talk about someone in her FAMILY without over-sensitive people giving her a hard time about it.

A decade ago this girl in my neighbourhood got pulled out of school because she was 13 and pregnant.

@ dru vs. slut shaming
I thought you were talking about my comment. I'm saying that it's common and completely normal for someone to be upset when it's someone who they're close to that's having sex at such a young age. You might not feel the same way, but I think that if I had a daughter and that at 13 she'd already done EVERYTHING, I'd be ashamed. But, to each their own, I guess.

@ Robin 'The Sidekick'
The journal did. I thought we were discussing the journal we are commenting on. Are we not?

@ LettersToNormandy
That's the thing, to you there is nothing wrong with sleeping around. And a lot of people feel the same way. But for me, it's wrong, and a lot of people feel the same way I do. That's the entire point of this journal. It's all based on opinions and there's a lot of them.

@ dru vs. slut shaming
When the heck did I say that?

@ Robin 'The Sidekick'
See, I never said it was okay to go around and do that behind someone's back whom you supposedly care about. It isn't. There is nothing wrong with sleeping around, but doing it while you're supposed to be committed to one person and that is an agreement is not okay in any way. That is how people get hurt. But when you are single and you have talked to the other person about not wanting a relationship and it's agreed upon that it is purely physical between the two of you I don't see the problem. Then it is a mutual thing with understanding from both parties. Is it still wrong if they both consent to the one time deal?

I know sex requires two people and yada yada yada, I know that. That is why I discuss it beforehand, and make sure that there is an understanding that it is nothing more than that and no one is being led on.

Also, I don't believe that having sex with someone you're in a relationship is wrong. For the time, it's just not something I could do because I have no desire to let someone get that close. It would be much harder to let someone see what's going on inside of me and all of the issues that I have than it would to simply share a few hours physically with them. I find my thoughts and feelings to be my core, and I can't bring myself to let anyone close to that part of me.