"17 year olds don't understand being heartbroken" - Comments

Exactly. You just summed up everything I thought and felt when I was fourteen.

@ hellokittymusicfreak
I don't tell my parents anything just because they can be so rude about it. They'll say that they didn't want me in a relationship anyway but they're happy to use my boyfriend whenever they need something. It's dumb and hypocritical. Parents don't know the half of what goes on in their child's relationship. Sure they're only doing what they think is best for their child but if they stopped and got the full story they'd be able to make a better judgement rather than thinking they know everything and just making things worse.

@ Death The Angel
Well, he was 25 and I was 14. I wanted an older guy, since they're supposed to be more mature than guys my own age. My mom messaged him on Facebook, telling him that if he ever tried to contact me or be with me again she would call the cops and have him arrested. The bitch of it all? In the beginning, she was all for the relationship. He was a God-fearing Christian until my mom told him this. He called her a drug-addicted cunt (confusing my adoptive mom with my birth mom). At the time, I wanted nothing to do with her. I hated my mom for a few months and refused to talk to her about anything that she could ruin - my writing, my friendships, etc. As time went on, I got over myself and started opening up again. Although to this day, I won't talk to her about my relationships. It's just painful to think that she has that kind of power, and can ruin my life with the snap of her fingers

@ hellokittymusicfreak
That's so sad If you don't mind me asking, why was it illegal for you guys to be together?
I still get threats from my parents about breaking me and my boyfriend up but I'd never let anyone destroy my relationship because I've worked so hard to get this far

I was in my very first relationship at fourteen, almost fifteen. It lasted about four months, and would have lasted longer were it not illegal for us to be together. When we were broken up by my parents, I cried for days on end. I loved him with every fiber of my being, and more. He meant everything to me, and I was heartbroken for the first time in my life. I struggled with myself for a long time, telling myself I was over him when I wasn't. It took me somewhere close to a year and a half to actually get over him, and now that I'm sixteen, I look back and realize that it wasn't best for me to be with him.

My point is, it doesn't really matter what age you are, you can experience pain and heartache. Yes, it's different for every age, but it's still possible.

@ AmorarEsDeVivir
Sorry I didn't get back to you I agree with everything you said. I guess love is different for certain ages but love is also different for each and every person. And yeah, it isn't right for anyone to judge a person on whether they feel heartache or not.

I understand where people are coming from, to an extent. Love IS different at age 17 than it is at age 30, and having your heart broken from 17-year-old love is different from having your heart broken from 30-year-old love. It's not because there's an age quota you must reach in order to feel; it's just because any given person will be different at age 30 from what they were at 17.

But that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, and it doesn't mean the pain isn't as legitimate. It's different. In some ways it's not as intense and in some ways it's more intense. And I don't think it's ever okay for someone to tell someone who's hurting that they're wrong for feeling pain.