5 ways to make a preemie mother mad. + family members, your advice is appreciated, but not needed. - Comments

  • @ AmorarEsDeVivir
    actually, yes. I've had family members say those things to me.
    No, you in no way whatsoever upset me or offended me. It's more like, I get some distant family member who's like "it's okay! I had all preemie babies!" and her children were 33 weeks plus. They had more time to bake than Olivia, and had a way better chance. They were able to go home in two weeks. I won't get to take Olivia home until November at the earliest.
    I am too. I'm beyond glad that my daughter is doing okay. She has a strong chance because I got steroid shots to strengthen her lungs. She's healthy for now, but as I've said, it can turn the other way any minute. /:
    September 3rd, 2013 at 01:48pm
  • I...can't believe people would even SAY 3 through 5. Please tell me you haven't actually heard that. I mean, why would you accuse the mother of causing the premature birth? This is stressful enough on the whole family, I would think. There's enough worry to go around without accusation. And anyone, I would think, would rather go through the third trimester and all the pain and discomfort and stress that comes with it than face the risks that come with a baby born that prematurely. And holy crap I know if I had just had a baby I'd sure as hell rather have him or her in my arms than have a good night's sleep! I just...what?

    I feel bad, because I said something similar to 2 in your last post, about how glad I am to know that she's going to be healthy, but I don't know all the circumstances. I'm sorry if that upset you. I am glad, I should say, that things look good right now, and that her lungs are strong, and that she's in good care. And I'm wishing you all the best, and I hope you and your baby will both be well, and I hope that you don't have to hear things like that anymore.
    September 3rd, 2013 at 05:59am
  • The " What'd you do while you were pregnant?" one used to piss me the hell off. I got asked that a lot after my still born. A lot of people seemed to think it was my fault, I hope your baby makes a speedy recovery.
    September 3rd, 2013 at 03:30am