A Somewhat Delciate Question + Explanations & Things - Comments

Not at all.

I hope so, too. Every time my mum suggests eating more fruits and veggies my dad's says he's all good, too. And ugh I know I've occasionally skimped on taking my vitamins because I find it a little difficult to swallow pills but I'm supposed to take them so my energy levels are up and I'm usually pretty tired when I don't, but yeah. also, it makes my pee as yellow as the mibba smileys. Ah, I know, first thing I thought of cos of my struggle this morning.

Ooh, good luck. Fingers crossed!

I might have to make a facebook to keep in contact with people on Mibba just in case. I'm kind of worried for the future in case I don't go on Mibba as much (and neither does anyone else) or something bad happens idk.

@ scoevve
Um I'm going to be bragging all over the place if he gets in so don't mind it I join you.

It's good that your mum's doing that for your dad, but I do hope that it doesn't cause too much tension. Every time my mum mentions him going back to therapy he tells her that he's fine. Like no. Hopefully your dad doesn't 'forget' to take his meds. Like taking them sucks but I know that I personally feel ten times worse when I don't take mine, so yeah. I agree! Ugh, great example. I think I'll have a talk to mum on her next day off and get her to help me approach the others, because they're more likely to listen to her.

Thank you El! Happy thoughts for you too.

@ dyke
Aw thank you. I always felt like my writing was way too straightforward.

AH THAT WOULD BE SO GREAT.

Well the only ones I'm 100% sure about in How to be Human are Caleb and Peter. Caleb was always Ben Barnes for me and I can definitely see Peter as a Commissioner Gordon-esqe Gary Oldman. I can never seem to come up with anyone for Amalie, though. I think her character's too set in my head for anyone to fit her.

Exactly! I mean it's only a few kilometres so, y'know, pretty cheap.
Okay yeah if your brother gets in I'm gonna post in that thread that I think's called "Do you know anyone famous?".

Oh, dear. My mum and dad had an argument the other day when my dad had his checkup and now she's restricting him from buying beers (I wrote bears) by the crate and also she's bought him one of those cases where you keep your weekly meds. I think he's going to start "forgetting" on purpose, but then I hate consuming medicine in general, so I see where he's coming from. But yeah, I definitely think talking to everyone would be a good idea, 'specially because a negative mentality can affect peoples' performances in loads of things. Like having to force yourself out of bed because 10.30 is too early in the morning

Ah well in that case I hope everything gets better super quickly! (And you must be a ninja because nobody's looking ehehehehe. Sorry.) Much love and happy thoughts, yeah? ♥ ♥ ♥

Yeaaaahhhhh. Your writing is so poetic and just beautiful to read.

I COULD PICTURE IT, AND I COULD TOTALLY SEE IT HAPPENING WITH HOW TO BE HUMAN, SERIOUSLY!
Do share your casting though I will reread your stories with their faces in mind.

@ dyke
Nawww. THAT WOULD BE THE DREAM. is it totally lame that I've daydreamed about that before and thought up some of the potential cast

Of course! I think that publishing your writing would be a gift to avid readers everywhere. NEXT THEY'LL BE MAKING MOVIES FROM YOUR NOVELS!

@ colibri
Thank you so much for taking the time to help me out. I really appreciate that you can see that he's not a bad man, because y'know, with the stigma surrounding alcoholics and all I figured that there'd be a few judging him. Thank you. I don't think that I could ever hate someone who hates themselves that much, and especially not my father who I know loves me very much. That link is really helpful and I have a day off uni tomorrow so I'm going to look around at a few things and follow your advice. Honestly -- that was exactly what I needed. I really appreciate it, and you're a wonderful person! Just know that you have most definitely helped me out! <3

@ dyke
Thank you! I miss talking to you too. Wow, really? That means a lot to me, haha! I mean, my mum always says that I'm good enough, but she's my mum, y'know? I've never really had the faith in myself. So I super duper appreciate those words! Hugs for you. You're amazing.

@ scoevve
Bah El, you're wonderful! Thank you so much. Yep, Antarctica's just a little bit further down than Tasmania.

Haha, you so can do that if he gets in! Lord knows I'll be bragging and forcing him to take me to the Brownlows.

Yeah, it's pretty scary. Dad doesn't handle his drunkenness well because he's on medication, so it really does get terrifying. I think I will approach my family when I can -- even maybe just my mum for now. I hope that I can do that. I just really want the rest of my family to understand that hating him really isn't going to help at all in the long run, but I'll have to talk to them all first.

He logs onto the finances when nobody's looking. It's like an obsession, I guess. But mum reckons things should start getting better soon in terms of finances so I'm hoping that that'll stop him from getting so upset. Thank you so much! Naw, I will definitely try to write a farewell blog. You're amazing and I really, really appreciate it! I'm always here for you if you need it to. It's mucho appreciated. <3

Hi. I'm always late to things, it's horrible, but hi. I just wanted to comment anyway. First — I totally agree with Nic. 100%. I think your writing is definitely good enough to get published, so I think you should go for it. And I would definitely buy your book(s?) because the shipping fee would likely be a lil cheaper than from, say, the States to here.

Second — something I also wanted to write before I forget about it, but uh, AFL??? That is so so soooo cool. I sincerely hope your brother gets in. And then I'd go around saying "HEY GUESS WHAT I'VE TALKED TO THE SISTER OF THIS GUY IN THE AFL!!" Nah, just kidding, I wouldn't. It's just such a cool opportunity so fingers crossed.

Third — and I suppose most finally… hi. Again. My dad drinks, too. He just kind of handles his drunkenness a little better, but the one time I saw him really, really drunk, he was walking into things and I don't know it was pretty terrifying so I can hardly imagine how it must be like for you. Ultimately I think what colibri wrote will probably be the most useful, but in the mean time I think you should approach the rest of your family, like your mum and your sister and your brother, and be honest with them, just like you were in the blog. In times like these you've kind of got to be the strong one, the pillar, if you will, and you have to pull everyone up, even if it's probably the most tiring, most painful thing. Basically, creating a happy environment that doesn't make your dad feel like he's excluded and makes the people in it feel like they're actually going somewhere.

And then maybe (have someone?) take a crack at looking at the finances instead of your dad, 'cos as far as I can tell from the blog entry it's this horrible cycle. So, uh, yeah. That's all. If you ever need to talk my inbox is open because I check Mibba every day even if I'm not always visibly active. Stay strong! ♥ Yeah, everything's going downhill, and I suppose it has been for quite awhile, but eventually things'll start looking up if you can just get through the trough. Oh, and if ultimately you do decide to leave Mibba for good, y'know, please write a farewell blog because I think you're great and wonderful and beautiful and I'd love to keep in contact, okay? ♥ ♥ ♥

Good luck and I hope everything works out!! ♥
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I really miss talking to ya, girl. I hope everything gets better for you, I know it's all so tough but I think everything just takes time.

I totally believe your writing is more than good enough to send in to publishers, I'd be one of the first to consider buying one of your books too. I offer all of my support and again I hope everything gets better for you!

It's good that you're being honest about it all. I know that that can be hard. It took me years to admit I lived in a house full of abuse. I have an alcoholic for an uncle, which isn't the same as having an alcoholic for a father, but I know how resistant they can be. It's better for them than having to face reality. You live in Australia, right, so universal health care? I think the best place for your father to be is in a rehabilitation centre. It's not good for him to be around you guys at a time like this. He needs to get away from all of the stress, because it's definitely pushed him over the edge. And I think that if your family lived with this for any longer, it might have an effect on your relationship. I'm really angry with your therapist, actually, because there are a lot of resources that can help you, and it's their responsibility to help you. Of course your father isn't a bad man. Alcoholism is a terrible thing that happens to so many people. It is so destructive. I really hope that he gets help. And I really hope that you and your family can get better in time. You are so wonderful for not resenting your father. That is a very hard thing. Most people would be so angry, blaming them for ruining their lives. It's hard. I'm so sorry that you have so much to deal with.

The following link will lead to some really good resources in your country:

http://australia.gov.au/topics/health-and-safety/drug-and-alcohol-use

Alcohol and Drug Information Services in each State/Territory:

ACT: 02 6207 9977

NSW: Sydney 02 9361 8000
NSW country 1800 422 599

SA: 1300 131 340

VIC: 1800 888 236

NT:Darwin 08 8922 8399
Central Australia 08 8951 7580
Territory wide 1800 131 350

QLD: 1800 177 833

TAS: 1800 811 994

WA: Perth 08 9442 5000
WA country 1800 198 024