Sex Scenes 101 - Comments

@ distant satellites
I agree. I try to put the characters thoughts and feelings to help the readers get more into the story, ya know?

@ Death The Angel
My first time was slightly awkward but I really enjoyed it, ya know?
Experience does help when writing.

@ ptvjaime
I agree its supposed to be sensual and arousing.

No that isn't sexy, lol. The perfection of the scene makes it more exciting to me.

Realistic doesn't have to mean super awkward and not sexy. I've been elbowed in the face and still had a good time after I got over it! As long as it's peppered in and not the main feature, awkward realism can be nice in a good sex scene. Just my take on that part.

I'd also like to add that even focusing a lot more on what the characters are thinking/feeling opposed to the grossly explicit detail of the deed can be great too! Now obviously if you're reading/writing a romantic plot you're not going to want the awkward stuff in there and that's the majority of stories that contain sex (focused on romance).

I don't write smut but if I did I'd have it that the "first time" is really good because that's how my first time was so I'd be using my own experience, ya know? I wouldn't care that others are like "It's so unrealistic" because to me, it's not, it's my own experience so yeah.

I think a lot of people don't realize that a lot, if not most, sex in romance is supposed to be sensual and arousing. I don't know about you, but accidentally coming down on someone's hair, elbowing someone in the face, and falling off the bed into the nightstand isn't sexy to me.

@ ptvjaime
I like the passionate fantasy too. And I agree, virgin sex can be awesome.

Realism is "eh" in sex for me; I like the passionate fantasy. And virgin sex can be awesome. Just depends on what they know ahead of time.