how to lose your friends. - Comments

@ shirtless
I'm glad I could help I understand how you're feeling and how hard it is to overcome your anxiety, especially when it's so hard to explain why you feel the way you do. It's the kind of thing that will improve over time, you just gotta find a way to push through and just try your best to be objective about each situation

@ Death The Angel
My mibba friends were the best. I miss them.
I don't think I'll stay in touch with my HS friends either. The drama isn't worth it.

@ Damsel Of Darkness
Thank you -- that actually made me feel a little better, and you're totally right about the assumption thing. My social anxiety on bad days makes me feel like everyone hates me. Ugh.

I understand exactly how you're feeling. And it sucks.

Honestly, I'm an adult now, school is long passed and yet I still have petty little drama's with my friends and it's so frustrating. I'm not perfect, I've made mistakes and stuff, but so have they and it seems they don't want to own them so as a result, the amount of friends I have in r/l is dropping at a ridiculous pace.

I also suffer from pretty bad anxiety, which I think is a big reason things go pear shaped with maintaining friends. I know it's hard and there's so many reasons to be apprehensive, but the best advice I can offer is try to remember that sometimes people will do things without thinking and more often than not, they had no intentions of hurting you. It's hard not to project your issues on other people (meaning, it's hard not to assume they might have done something to specifically exclude you or cause you hurt because your personal anxieties lead you to feel that way) but sometimes you need to stop and think about the situation and try to be objective.

It's hard, but I also suggest talking to people you feel you can trust about what you go through so maybe they can understand how their actions might make you feel. I'm not implying that you don't make an effort with your friends as I'm sure you do, but try to remember that friendship is a two way street and it takes work from both parties to make it worth while. Hiding in your class during lunch might be the easier option, but sometimes you need to put yourself out there and step out of your comfort zone.

Hope things get better for you

I don't have many friends beside my boyfriend, although I've been distancing myself from rl friends because it's too much of a hassle now that I've graduated high school to keep up with everyone Plus they still continued petty drama, like no thanks

Having friends on Mibba is nice though :)