Let's Talk About Boobs. - Comments

sheepcat; :
Haha, I could imagine how lovely it is! The only time I get to go sans bra is in the shower or some nights when I sleep. so the idea of being able to actually go sans-bra would be incredible! You, lucky, lucky girl!

And see, I can understand exactly what you're saying about sensible clothing (the sun-smart kind) but our rules were just ridiculous. I got sent home from school for wearing an off-the-shoulder long sleeve t-shirt, because the tank top I wore underneath did not have thick enough straps. I'm sorry, but I couldn't see what was so sexual about my collarbone!!

You seem to have it lucky over there, and I would take it gladly with a grain of salt. Seems your lot is more civilized than mine, and that says something being Canadian! hahaha. And I don't think you're clutching at straws, I think it's the truth. Boys and men should be conditioned to not ogle at a woman's body, and there is much to be said about that kind of respect and humility. Not just between opposing sexes, but as human beings.

nearly witches. :
I agree entirely! I think if we have such a progressive age of technology and activism, shouldn't we be able to act as human beings yet? I'd rather; some day when our technology outsmarts and we are thrown back into the caveman era, maybe we'll evolve better the second time around. haha

Exactly! Nor should you, girl. Like I said, you need to be booby proud, and stand up to people who think it is okay to body shame!

Exactly, anyone with half a brain could figure that one out. I just think that if we're still living in a world where that sort of thing is acceptable and using excuses like that, we really need to get a move on and learn that it isn't okay. What a silly man.

You basically worded what I said to them a while back so much better than I could have! Again, I don't wanna live in a world where your body type determines how clever people think you are. We should really stop that.

@ sheepcat;
I think I've worn one like...twice and both times I was uncomfortable as.

Oh, going sans-bra is heavenly. I just have to be careful about which shirts I wear it with (sometimes it's noticeable, but if it's a dark shirt / patterned / has a design over it (like how it's kind of plastered on? I forget the word)) it's fine.
I can definitely see how the grass would be greener. Then, let me just bust out the push up bra!

That's ridiculous. I'm so sorry you had to go through that, and the numerous girls that are going through it now.
The only rules I've had in place over it was in primary school, where clothes had to be sun smart -- (covered shoulders so the risk of burning is limited). Otherwise, nada.
I suppose it can also be seen as a conditioning thing. I mean, the boys over here are taught not to ogle or anything because there are no restrictions to make a girl's body "forbidden" or anything. I don't know, I could just be clutching at straws for an answer here.

@ nearly witches.
Oh fair enough. I've never worn a turtleneck and the only times I see people wearing them are on TV, so.

sheepcat; :
There is nothing wrong with being small busted! And I'm glad you see that! It doesn't matter what size your chest is, as long as you are proud of it. So good for you and your body confidence! My older sister used to be a C-cup, and now she's dropped down to an A/B cup depending on the bra and she loves it. She can wear all sorts of clothes I can't, and like you said, can go sans-bra. Which I admit, sounds heavenly some days. So I definitely get what you are saying about the difference between sister breast sizes, although I'm stuck on the younger-bigger-boobs side of the fence, trust me some days the grass looks greaner from over here.

I wonder if the difference is that you have a uniform? My school never did, although there was initiative years ago for one but it was voted down by the school board. I always liked the idea of one, based on modesty and equality. And because we don't have one, so many rules had to be put into place. If ANY girl at my school had shown up in a sheer top with a bandeau underneath, she'd either be sent home or forced to wear a mens XXL t-shirt for the remainder of the day. It really made us feel ashamed of our bodies if that happened, and there was such a negative stigma around it that it created a lot of harassment and resentment.

nearly witches. :
And flaunt it we shall Be proud, girl! You got this!

That is exactly what we said! And if a bunch of uncomfortable grade eight girls could figure that out, why couldn't the teachers?! He kept his teaching post afterwards for quite some time, before transferring schools because his wife was pregnant. WHICH HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM GETTING AROUSED BY TEEN GIRLS BREASTS AND THEN BLAMING US FOR IT. And that's where i find this whole problem to be. Why are we excusing ignorant male behaviour on the premise that it's our fault for having breasts?

You tell them right where they can shove their jokes, hun! Because that isn't right. No woman should be mocked based on her body in correlation to her intelligence, :( and you should hold on to your confidence, and not let them faze you. Be smart, be beautiful, and be happy!

Oh, definitely not. I have a few friends who are proud to be big-breasted. We need to flaunt everything we've been given.

That's ridiculous! That absolutely isn't the fault of the schoolgirls, especially if we're talking that age. That just screams warning bells about that teacher for me, if people that young are...yanno. Just doesn't sit right with me.

Exactly! I'm actually probably the smartest academics-wise out of my friends, so I don't know if they do it as a joke or not but it just isn't that funny. I think that without body confidence I'd pretty much be screwed, haha!

@ sheepcat;
Honestly, it's more to do with the fact that they make me feel uncomfortable (stuffy and claustrophobic) and when I see someone wearing them, I remember how uncomfortable they feel on me and just get completely weirded out.

I have tiny boobs (14A -- B if I'm lucky) and I honestly don't see anything wrong with them. Sometimes I wish they were a little bigger, but I kind of think that my hips make up for it (thanks to genetics I have a tiny waist which makes them look wide as heck). The only comments I've garnered are from my family, and they're not the nicest. Today my mum teased me because she and my younger sister went shopping (she's apparently a C-cup now) and mum went "wow they're bigger than yours and you don't even fit into this bra I bought you". I also like the fact I can wander around without a bra.

Anyway, I really don't understand the whole school dress code thing. We have uniform over here, for the most part, but when we have out of uniform days we can dress however we want, and it's like nothing changes. There's no ogling of girl's chests, nobody cares if bra straps are showing or anything like that. Some girls even come to school in bandeaus with a sheer top over the top. I don't get it.

@ nearly witches.
Off topic, but what do you find off putting about turtlenecks? (Just merely curiosity.)

nearly witches. :
I'm so glad you agree! I thought I was one of the few large breasted women who was proud of them! I feel like a rockstar in my own sexuality because of my breasts, and I'm glad to hear that there are other women out there who love the way they look with them! Good for you, and be proud of your giant knockers ;)

I get EXACTLY what you're saying about the schooling issue. I once had a teacher (we're talking in Junior High, so in like my eighth year, around thirteen-fourteen years old) who got an actual hard on in the classroom! And then, the BEST PART was that when he was questioned for it by the teaching staff and the board of directors, he blamed it on teen girls clothing! He said it was OUR fault for having our breasts out! Isn't that ridiculous? Keep in mind this is a grown ass man, and at that age most of those girls would barely have breasts. By then I did of course, and was already a C-cup, but come on! you can't blame females in the educational system for you being a pig.

You are not an idiot for having big breasts! They are not even a little bit linked to your intelligence as a human being, and if your friends keep saying such things to them, you need to tell them to back off. Be booby proud, girl! and flaunt what your Momma gave you, because you are proud of you! :) I'm so glad you have body confidence!

charity_hope :
Nobody understands boobs, don't take it as a personal offense! :p But I am glad you understand the struggle. All body shaming is a farce, and needs to be taken down. It isn't fair that your friend should be harassed for her bum any more than we should be harassed for our large busts. And when society accepts body shaming, that's when problems like this arise. I wonder how those men who catcall your friend would feel if us ladies returned the favour?

I don't know how many absurd things have been said to me about my breasts, and there is no right. Degrading somebody in a sexual way is horrible, and I'm glad forward thinkers like you acknowledge this. IT IS SO UNCOMFORTABLE. It's hard to stress how insignificant it can make a girl feel to be treated like you are nothing but a slab offered up to wolves.

You should be booby proud even if they're covered up ;) and your friend should be proud of her beautiful bum!

I don't understand boobs even though I have them.

I never have these problems because I'm practically all covered up anyway. But I do understand your frustration. It kinda sucks that people only see that part of you while obviously you're more than that, you know. I have a friend who has quite big bum. And almost every time we walk past a group of men, they'd cat-call her or look at her like she's a piece of meat or something which is very not cool.

People need to respect each other more, you know. How would they feel if someone look at them like that? I bet it'll be very uncomfortable.

Amen to this blog. AMEN. I'm a 36F and I swear to god, as much as I like the fact that I look pretty damn awesome in a low-cut top (because without sounding absolutely big-headed, I look fucking fabulous on nights out thanks to them), I am so sick of my boobs being my only defining factor. God forbid I actually have anything intelligent to say because according to some men that I know, my having large breasts instantly means I'm thick as shit.

My school had policies as well. I lost count of the amount of times I was told to 'button up' during classes. I physically couldn't -- the shirts that I bought only buttoned up to a certain part of my chest because they weren't male shirts with buttons right up to the neck. I was actually ridiculed by a male teacher once (bearing in mind that I went to a catholic school and everything was super-strict anyway) for 'bearing too much unnecessary flesh' and was sent to the depute head's office. All just because you could literally just begin to see the dip. Like, seriously? I can't change the way that the clothes stores style female school shirts. I also can't change the fact that about 90% of my shirts were ill-fitting because I had to get larger sizes (which made me feel like I was wearing a tent around my stomach) to accommodate, which meant they were lower. As you said, you can't conceal them with magic so how was I supposed to stop that?

I also still get that nowadays, especially when I'm in the town centre where I live. I tend to wear vest tops all the time -- not because the weather is warm (because Scotland gets sun roughly like 1 day a year ) but because I find those the most comfortable style of shirt to wear. I've been called every name under the sun because my breasts are on display because hell, it's my body and I was always taught to flaunt my assets by other female family members. I don't see why society should dictate that I can't wear the shirts that I'm comfortable in just because they feel uncomfortable. I feel uncomfortable watching people wander around in turtlenecks, but I don't think people should be forced not to wear them.

ANYWAY. This has been a long comment, but this is such a good blog. In the end, I love my boobs. I'm pretty boyish in most senses (I have shortish hair, never wear skirts, etc) so having the girls there constantly makes me feel more like a woman.