Casual Sex - Comments

Don't sleep with the guy.
He doesn't want to be in a relationship with, and it doesn't matter how many times you sleep with him, he will never want you.

In the end you're just going to get hurt, because a woman can't just have sex so long with the same person, and not have feelings for him.

Okay, before I comment this, the previous comment kind of annoyed me. You have no right to call someone a killer because they have an abortion. You don't know the reasoning behind it. It may be your opinion that it's wrong but it's just as wrong to call her a killer. You can get STDs/STIs from other things that aren't related to sex. You can get Herpes from sitting on cold surfaces or even using a public bathroom. You can catch things by sharing water bottles or pretty much anything.

10 minutes of pleasure...I've had sex and neither time did it last just 10 minutes. Anyway, moving on. I'm not pregnant and I don't have any diseases and infections. You can't run through life going "what if" and being afraid of every little thing. I wouldn't say having sex is a horrible mistake.

Now, on to the journal. I'd stop seeing him at least for now so I could get rid of any feelings I have for him. Because obviously, you're just a lay to him. Like the others said, try cutting down if you don't want to see him. I know it's hard, especially when you're caught up in the moment. But if you do have sex with him, be safe, use protection and all that fancy stuff =]

Okay I see a lot of holes in this problem.

1) You are 15 ( it says it up there so it is what I am going with) you don't need to have sex. You are more prone to STD's, STI's and getting pregnant.

2) Bob doesn't want a relationship. Okay that's all good. But, what happens when something goes wrong and you find out that you are lets say, six weeks a long and you have an STD that will be developed in your child while he is still growing. What then? Are you going to have an abortion? Then I will say that I will have to call you a killer. That is when you need to woman up and forget about your dreams. It isn't about YOU any more, it is about your child and a disease that he or she has to live with. What are you going to do when he asks you why he is sick all of the time? Then you have to tell him that he as and STD and he has to live with it. He will never have a normal sex life, that isn't good for any one.

3) Okay so let's say that everything is good. You are not pregnant, and you don't have an STD or an STI. Thats wonderful. But, Bob moves on. He doesn't want you any more. Her has moved on wit his live and he thinks that you should do the same. Not only will you hurt emotionally, but you will probably die from the inside out. You will become bitter, believe I have had to watch my friends go through it. It isn't pretty.

Now.

I am a virgin, and yes, I have thought about it, but do you wanna know what keeps me from making a horrible mistake? I have dreams. Big dreams. They are just as big as any ones in the world. If I were to have about maybe 10 minutes of pleasure at the most, then guess what, I may turn out to be a parent or I may get and STD or and STI, and not know it and maybe die from it. All because I thought ''That it couldn't happen to me.'' If you think that, then honey, you are more of a fool then I thought possible.

*on a better note*

Don't stop seeing him.
'Just stop the casual sex part, then you should be fine.
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It's probably easy to fall back into a routine like that, but try cutting it down, and if he makes you feel guilty like that, then suggest to him that you two just stop having sex, and see how he reacts to that?

...you cold try...not having sex with him
it is easy to fall back on the same person but how will you feel when he gets with someone and you're left with nothing - he won't feel bad, it was only casual sex. just move on and find someone new to sleep with. be mates just don't shag him