LGBT Members?

Riot Mind:

Hey I'm Chela, I'm 16 later on in July, and I'm gay.
I'm actually in the closet, my family knows that I'm not "straight" for say, they know that I find women attractive, I don't think they fully understand that I'm actually attracted to them, and that I'm not particularly attracted to men.

As far as being accepted, I know that my family would accept me when I decide to come out, I'm just chicken to slap a tag on my back, y'know? That being said, I don't really know how accepting my town is, I would imagine not very much just consitering what it's made up of.

My birthday was the 18th of this month! =D

I am glad that your family will accept you. =]

My mum has spent the day telling me about men that fancy me in the village. By the end I just wanted to say, 'For God's sake! I don't care!!' But that would be mean seeing how she doesn't know about my sexuality crisis.

^ My mum is kinda like that. She'd always tell me, "Oh, I want you to be more open with me so, you know, if you ever get a boyfriend, you can just let me know." And I'm like ha, you're funny mum. (On the inside of course) The two things wrong with her logic: I already have a girlfriend and I'm not interested in the boys, mum.

^ Does she not know then, or is she just brushing it off? Because if I ever managed to find myself a lovely lady, I'd not know where to start telling my mother. She's probably find out from skanky chavs in the village that make up rumours about me.

Hello everyone, I'm Sami, I'm almost 16 and I'm confused .

Since I can remember, people have thought I was going to grow up to be a bisexual or a lesbian. I find both women and men attractive, but I'm not sure whether I would be sexually attracted to one or other or both. I've been having these "feelings" and "thoughts" shall we say, more about the female gender recently. As mean as it sounds, I actually try and block them out - My family would never accept me, never. I think that would be a major secret to keep though, I don't know if I could do it. My mother isn't homophobic, but she doesn't like when they show public affection (mainly kissing the face off eachother). Especially women.

I also really believe I was supposed to be a boy. Apart from the fact that the doctors thought I was going to be a boy... I wear males clothes more often that female clothes. Aside from the essential bras , my wardrobe and chest of drawers is filled with boxers, jeans and male t-shirts. I feel more comfortable like that, than in a dress, skirt or something else feminine. Everyone always says I have a "mind like a boy".

Let's not forget that my mother tries to suggest boys to me all the time for no reason. When is she going to learn that I'm not interested?

I'm not sure if it's just a phase I'm going through or what, but if anyone can help, I'll be grateful .

Hey Sami, it's great to meet you!

The thing you should never do is lie to yourself. It might well be a phase, but just be honest with yourself and you will work out in time where your attractions lie. I hate how most parents think something this important to someone as a person is 'just a phase'

I'm sorry that you believe your family wouldn't accept you. I am quite lucky as my mother told me once that she wouldnt mind, however she did say that since I was little, she and my dad had basically been preparing for the eventuality, like everyone knew before I did

And don't give anyone the time of day who cares that you dress differently, people are so shallow nowadays! Gets right on my tits!!

Well, hello peeps. I`m Raven, but I usually go by Gabby. I`m thirteen years old, and bi-sexual.

None of my family knows I am bi, because they are quite homo-phobic. Which makes me feel like shit. I was going to tell my cousin, the most opened minded. But first I asked what she would do if her best friend told her they were, she said walk away and not be as good of friends with them. So I didn`t tell her.

My friends, that I have told, are quite supportive though, thankfully, not many others know besides the people I tell. A few do know, though, and I know some talk behind my back. One boy came up to me saying, "Liam told be you were bi." As if it was an insult.

But anyways, I would love to have more bi, gay, lesbian, etc friends, they make me happy for some reason, more normal maybe.

the reverend.:

Hello everyone, I'm Sami, I'm almost 16 and I'm confused .

Since I can remember, people have thought I was going to grow up to be a bisexual or a lesbian. I find both women and men attractive, but I'm not sure whether I would be sexually attracted to one or other or both. I've been having these "feelings" and "thoughts" shall we say, more about the female gender recently. As mean as it sounds, I actually try and block them out - My family would never accept me, never. I think that would be a major secret to keep though, I don't know if I could do it. My mother isn't homophobic, but she doesn't like when they show public affection (mainly kissing the face off eachother). Especially women.

I also really believe I was supposed to be a boy. Apart from the fact that the doctors thought I was going to be a boy... I wear males clothes more often that female clothes. Aside from the essential bras , my wardrobe and chest of drawers is filled with boxers, jeans and male t-shirts. I feel more comfortable like that, than in a dress, skirt or something else feminine. Everyone always says I have a "mind like a boy".

Let's not forget that my mother tries to suggest boys to me all the time for no reason. When is she going to learn that I'm not interested?

I'm not sure if it's just a phase I'm going through or what, but if anyone can help, I'll be grateful .

Hm... Well, I'm FtM transsexual (almost), and I don't wear boys clothes. I wear rather feminine clothes. But that also goes along with feeling like a man, I feel more feminine. More confident to wear clothes. Trying to feel like a woman, I was actually kind of ashamed.

I don't think you should try and block them out. That is denying who you are, in a way. Even if it is a phase, you shouldn't ignore something.

Good luck. =]

Road To Heaven.:

Well, hello peeps. I`m Raven, but I usually go by Gabby. I`m thirteen years old, and bi-sexual.

None of my family knows I am bi, because they are quite homo-phobic. Which makes me feel like shit. I was going to tell my cousin, the most opened minded. But first I asked what she would do if her best friend told her they were, she said walk away and not be as good of friends with them. So I didn`t tell her.

My friends, that I have told, are quite supportive though, thankfully, not many others know besides the people I tell. A few do know, though, and I know some talk behind my back. One boy came up to me saying, "Liam told be you were bi." As if it was an insult.

But anyways, I would love to have more bi, gay, lesbian, etc friends, they make me happy for some reason, more normal maybe.

I'm sorry your family is homophobic. But don't let that stop you from being you. (I promise that isn't the message I got from your post, just a tiny bit of advice. =]) I am glad your friends are supportive. About the "talking behind your back" don't worry about that. You will get that everywhere, from different people, but it doesn't matter what anyone says, except for those who matter to you. =]

Well, if you don't mind being friends with a transsexual who happens to be gay, then I'll be happy to be your friend. =]

Nothing can stop me from being me. Plus people talk about peoples backs about everything so yeah that is just people.

Of course I don`t mind.<3 I don`t totally understand transsexuals but I would love to be more informed.(:

Road To Heaven.:

Nothing can stop me from being me. Plus people talk about peoples backs about everything so yeah that is just people.

Of course I don`t mind.<3 I don`t totally understand transsexuals but I would love to be more informed.(:

That is great. =]

It is actually a pretty simple thing to understand. =]

I'm Bree. I'm one hundred percent gay. I don't know a lot of LGBT people in my age group. I know a very happy couple with kids who live next door to me, some friends of my parents, and one bisexual girl my age.

I live in the 'burbs. People often ridicule the lesbian couple next door. It's terrible. However, Austin is the city right next door which is a very open-minded, liberal, free love sort of city. I'm not out, but it's more of a practical matter than a not-comfy-in-my-skin or homophobic parents matter. My parents are very very involved in their very seperate lives- I'm gonna wait for them to stop being self-obsessed so they get used to it as soon as possible. I think my mom might know. She's said stuff like, "you don't know this band? They're lead singers homosexual, so i thought you may be in on it." But she's still got her head shoved to far up her ass to acknowledge it fully.

Meanwhile, my sister and her roommate most definitely know. It goes unsaid, but we all know I'm so so gay. And my sister is pansexual, so it's cool.

One Third Passion:

I'm Bree. I'm one hundred percent gay. I don't know a lot of LGBT people in my age group. I know a very happy couple with kids who live next door to me, some friends of my parents, and one bisexual girl my age.

I live in the 'burbs. People often ridicule the lesbian couple next door. It's terrible. However, Austin is the city right next door which is a very open-minded, liberal, free love sort of city. I'm not out, but it's more of a practical matter than a not-comfy-in-my-skin or homophobic parents matter. My parents are very very involved in their very seperate lives- I'm gonna wait for them to stop being self-obsessed so they get used to it as soon as possible. I think my mom might know. She's said stuff like, "you don't know this band? They're lead singers homosexual, so i thought you may be in on it." But she's still got her head shoved to far up her ass to acknowledge it fully.

Meanwhile, my sister and her roommate most definitely know. It goes unsaid, but we all know I'm so so gay. And my sister is pansexual, so it's cool.

Great to meet you Bree, and I do agree, it is very hard to meet LGBT persons at quite a young age.

I'm not out yet, but I'm lucky to have a rather accepting family, so it'll be just a question of timing

With my friends, however, that will take some effort. Don't know whether you've ever met someone for the first time and about 5 minutes later, they say, "Sorry to ask, but are you gay?" I always say no like I always have, but it still gets on your tits that it's the first thing people seem to care about when they meet you.

It's great to hear you have an accepting environment nearby as well. And I've never really understood the concept of pansexuality until accepting myself as gay. I don't think people's sexuality should define them as a good or bad person, so there should be no room to judge people who don't follow the 'norm', whatever normal is these days

One Third Passion:

I'm Bree. I'm one hundred percent gay. I don't know a lot of LGBT people in my age group. I know a very happy couple with kids who live next door to me, some friends of my parents, and one bisexual girl my age.

I live in the 'burbs. People often ridicule the lesbian couple next door. It's terrible. However, Austin is the city right next door which is a very open-minded, liberal, free love sort of city. I'm not out, but it's more of a practical matter than a not-comfy-in-my-skin or homophobic parents matter. My parents are very very involved in their very seperate lives- I'm gonna wait for them to stop being self-obsessed so they get used to it as soon as possible. I think my mom might know. She's said stuff like, "you don't know this band? They're lead singers homosexual, so i thought you may be in on it." But she's still got her head shoved to far up her ass to acknowledge it fully.

Meanwhile, my sister and her roommate most definitely know. It goes unsaid, but we all know I'm so so gay. And my sister is pansexual, so it's cool.

Hi. Your sister being pan-sexual must be comforting. I hope the right time to tell your parents come.(: About not being able to find people your age, I dont know what to tell you.

Sorry double

JJNeil1991:

Great to meet you Bree, and I do agree, it is very hard to meet LGBT persons at quite a young age.

I'm not out yet, but I'm lucky to have a rather accepting family, so it'll be just a question of timing

With my friends, however, that will take some effort. Don't know whether you've ever met someone for the first time and about 5 minutes later, they say, "Sorry to ask, but are you gay?" I always say no like I always have, but it still gets on your tits that it's the first thing people seem to care about when they meet you.

It's great to hear you have an accepting environment nearby as well. And I've never really understood the concept of pansexuality until accepting myself as gay. I don't think people's sexuality should define them as a good or bad person, so there should be no room to judge people who don't follow the 'norm', whatever normal is these days

Im glad your family should be accepting, and I hope you find the right time to tell them. I dont get why people asking if your gay bothers you.?

Road To Heaven.:

Im glad your family should be accepting, and I hope you find the right time to tell them. I dont get why people asking if your gay bothers you.?

It's not that I'm really bothered about who I really am, it's a bit more complicated.

I recently began university still unsure of my sexuality, worried about probably my most important 'life choice' per se to take (very bad way of putting it, but anyway), and suddenly I found myself meeting new people who would assume I was gay from only having spoken to me for no longer than five minutes. And being stuck in an all-male dorm with 10 other chauvinistic, arrogant d*cks made me all the more uncomfortable for being honest with myself.

It did offend me at first as I was still, in all fairness, lying to myself about who I was, and then when I finally did accept who I am, it made me feel uneasy about the people I had made friends with. I'm now unsettled about whether the fact they had judged me so fast at first due to my rather camp and outgoing character would mean they would judge me properly if I was honest about being gay.

I hope that made sense, I'll stop talking now

JJNeil1991:

Great to meet you Bree, and I do agree, it is very hard to meet LGBT persons at quite a young age.

I'm not out yet, but I'm lucky to have a rather accepting family, so it'll be just a question of timing

With my friends, however, that will take some effort. Don't know whether you've ever met someone for the first time and about 5 minutes later, they say, "Sorry to ask, but are you gay?" I always say no like I always have, but it still gets on your tits that it's the first thing people seem to care about when they meet you.

It's great to hear you have an accepting environment nearby as well. And I've never really understood the concept of pansexuality until accepting myself as gay. I don't think people's sexuality should define them as a good or bad person, so there should be no room to judge people who don't follow the 'norm', whatever normal is these days

I have definitely experienced that. Just because I have short hair and am fairly androgynous doesn't automatically mean I am gay. I know plenty of straight girls who happen to be tomboys. I promised myself that the next stranger who asked me that, I would say yes. It doesn't bother me that people ask me, it's just the fact that they seem to ask me because I fit a stereotype.

I thought about wearing a "I like girls who like girls" t-shirt (they sell them at a local store in the city), and just wearing it to school one day, but then I thought better. Haha. I think it'll be easier to come out to my friends. My best friend has a hunch anyway. She always asks why I never find guys she points out attractive. "Not my type", ha. `

That makes sense now. I guess I just didnt know how that feels. But now I think of it my sister is always calling girl with short hair dykes, like wtf.

JJNeil1991:

With my friends, however, that will take some effort. Don't know whether you've ever met someone for the first time and about 5 minutes later, they say, "Sorry to ask, but are you gay?" I always say no like I always have, but it still gets on your tits that it's the first thing people seem to care about when they meet you.

I actually have the opposite of this, which is weird =/ I actually would prefer it if people were to ask me if I were gay, because everyone else just assumes I'm straight. Seriously. All of my friends have told me they thought I was straight until I told them otherwise, and I really don't consider myself that far out of the stereotype =/ Of course, now whenever I meet someone, one of my friends is like, "This is Kyle, he's gay" and I just laugh. XD Most of my friends are pretty accepting, though. It may seem like you're going to lose some people because of who you are, and you will. I lost a lot of friends when I came out, but you do find out who your real friends are, and those friendships are worth a million times more than the friendships you had before. =]