"Coming Out" to Family About Sexuality

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It's something I worry about.
I'm not even entirely sure myself yet, but I've suspected myself of not being entirely straight since I was 11, and by time I was 13, I was pretty sure I was Bi, and I wrote a wee note and left it for my Mum, and I know she read it, but she didn't mention it, probably thinking it was a phase and it would change when I got older.
Well, I think it has changed, though not in the direction my Mum would have been hoping it would.

I really hav eno idea how they would react. My Mum says she doesn't care as long as it isn't "shoved in her face", whatever that means. And my Step-Dad is a homophobe, though, I think, only towards male couples. He's determined his only son doesn't turn out to be gay (he seems to think he will because he's emotional and doesn't stick up for himself), and I know if he knows I am, it might make coming out easier for him, but his Dad would probably blame me for "corrupting him" and the whole family will go boom.
I hate families

Alexface.:

I wish my parents were the type to make jokes about it. :XD
They seem to have dealt with my bisexuality well, considering their opinions. They still talk to me and everything, they're okay. But I think secretly they're really uncomfortable with it.

That's just how my parents are. I'm sure that, with time, your parents will become more comfortable with it. People's opinions can change when things affect them personally, you know. :arms:

I just told my parents I was bisexual at dinner one night, because I got fed up with them making jokes and rude remarks about my bisexual friends.
They looked at me and at first my mom was pissed off and my dad was just quiet, which is super unusual for him. Things stayed that way for a good month, and then they found out I had already gone out with a few girls and had done stuff with them.
My mom blew the roof, she freaked out, wondering what she had done wrong in raising me, and my dad simply accepted it.
My mom has gotten over it, all this was a good year ago.
They still make rude remarks and comments about being bi that they know piss me off, and my dad is still a homophobe when it comes to gay guys, but at least they haven't shunned me or kicked me out or tried to stop me from being what I am.
My dad's been the best about it, even if his remarks piss me off the most.
He joked around once and was like "I don't care if you're going to be a lesbian, just don't date a dog, date a chick who I think is hot and that doesn't look like a dude. That just defeats the purpose of being a lesbian."
Sad thing is, I don't even think I am bi anymore.
And I should probably tell them that, but then they'll stop watching what they say about bisexuals and lesbians.

I'm strait, but I had a friend who was gay and his family resented him for that. It really made me think, because I was completly ok with it, but I wondered why his parents couldn't accept him. After thinking long and hard about it, I still couldn't come up with anything and promised myslef, if I ever had a child who was gay, or whatever, that I would be ok with it and support them.

My mom found out I was bi-sexual, and she said I was a disgrace to our family and that I was going through a stage, and I should get over it because it's disgusting.

I told my little brother, who's 13, that I was bi. He said I was gross and made a bunch of rude remarks.
My older brother said he doesn't like gay people when I compalined about my other brother. I don't know if he was serious though. >.<
My Mom doesn't care and neither does my brothers Fiance.
I told my friend Kelly and she's kind of awkward now.
My friend Priscilla doesn't care though. [:

My parents actually once told me that if I was bi/gay they would be perfectly fine with it, but I'm still kinda afraid to tell them i'm bi anyways, it would be awkward considering my girlfriend is also my best friend who has slept over on many occasions and I don't want them to get the wrong ideas.....

My girlfriend is scared to tell her parents because she thinks they'll treat her differently. I'm not convinced though, she has pretty cool parents who I'm sure will be fine with it, but I can't convince that.

And reading through some of these posts, I think that everyone is different. I'm reading some that say people should wait until their older to "come out" because they might be confused when their 12/13/14. I'm not confused at all about who I am right now, I have an amazing girlfriend and sure, I'm a little young, but I'm happy.

It shocks me that I am still confused at sixteen when there are thirteen year olds that seem to have it all figured out. They are even comfortable with it.

I have fell asleep crying because of this many times. I have come to the conclusion that I am never "coming out" to my parents. They can just think that I am unfortunate in love.

I don't even know what I am, much less what I'm going to do...

"You shouldn't ever be scared to tell me if you fall in love with a girl," my mum once told me and my little sister, yet I haven't dared to tell her I like girls, and I don't even know why I'm scared to do it.

I'm so scared because I'm bi-curious. My dad hates gay people (so I'm sure he hates lesbians and bi's) We were watching this show were pro cake makers bake cakes for special occasions and they were making one for a gay couple and they showed a picture and my dad made this gaging noise and was like ewww. I fell like crying right now because they already don't like the way I act/dress so if I turn out to be bi they won't even want to look at me :(

I don't let my mom or dad say "fag" in spanish when i'm around. i implore them to be as tolerant as possible of those with alternative lifestyles because being intolerant is just so primative. i'm bisexual, but it's something they'll never understand.

I'm straight, but my mum thinks I'm a lesbian. I think if I realised that I liked girls, she'd be fine with it. I don't think it would be difficult for me to tell her, if I wanted to date girls.

I'm straight, but a few of my friends are bisexual. Which is why I always get offended when people say, "Bisexuals aren't real, it just means their confused." or "Bisexuals are whores, they'll do it with anybody."

My brother said the second quote and I literally cried because my best friend is bisexual and she isn't like that at all. >_>

And I don't think she came out yet, at least not to her family. I hope they'll be accepting either way, she is a nice girl.

DustinTheDuffer:

It shocks me that I am still confused at sixteen when there are thirteen year olds that seem to have it all figured out. They are even comfortable with it

Everyone is different and that means that while you may not be comfortable with your sexuality, I am and It's part of who I am and theres no use fighting the fact I have an amazing girlfriend and I'm happy.

Besides, age is but a number so should it matter if I'm thirteen or sixty three? I'm rather glad I've figured it out this early in life.

I wish I could come out, but my parents would probably just laugh, and think I'm joking.
If they knew I was serious about it, I would never hear the end of it. It would be worse than dying, almost.
So, I just have to make myself straight.
It sucks, but oh well.

I think my parents always knew that I was bi, but when I did make is official they just acted like I said my favorite color is brown. When i told the rest of my family they were cool, I was totally surprised with my Grandfather because he said that no matter what I was or who I was I was still his grandgirl and nothing would change, he was raised in a way prejudice home.
The my cousin's girlfriend started hitting on me. :shock:
Weirdo. :P

Famous_Last_Goths:

I'm straight, but a few of my friends are bisexual. Which is why I always get offended when people say, "Bisexuals aren't real, it just means their confused." or "Bisexuals are whores, they'll do it with anybody."

My brother said the second quote and I literally cried because my best friend is bisexual and she isn't like that at all. >_>

And I don't think she came out yet, at least not to her family. I hope they'll be accepting either way, she is a nice girl.

I loathe those so-called "barsexuals" (girls who kiss other girls for attention) who make bisexuals look horrible. Those people should be ashamed of themselves.

As for the "they're just confused", I like the saying that goes like this: "No, I'm bisexual - you're confused." :file:

I'm strait, I have family who is homosexual, so yeah i would be cool with if my kids were gay, lesbian, or bisexual.

I still haven't and I don't know if I will. To me, it doesn't make much difference if my family knows or not.