Tiptoeing On Mibba. The Ugly Truth. - Comments

I seriously thought I was the only one that could see this happening on Mibba and it really bugs me. I've had this happen to me so many times. One time I posted a suggestion for Dujo and it was CLEARLY just a suggestion on my opinion and these two girls nearly twice my age started borderline bashing me and when I confronted them about how they were putting my idea down they said they were just stating their opinion and if I didn't like what they were saying I shouldn't have posted my idea.

@ RachTheBat_

Thanks

@ Psychotic Secrets
Applauding you whole heartedly! You hit the nail on the proverbial head there! I feel like I have to bite my tongue half the time.

Same here

Mibba isn't like that anymore. I remember a point where the admins were really busy and the whole site went ape shit on each other. There was actually a gang of users who would bully, harass and attack members. I left Mibba for a while because I was messed with so much.

@ Psychotic Secrets
Yep same here. I'm very loyal and supportive of my friends, but I always get abandoned or replaced by their romantic relationship of the week. Just have become tired of trying. There's not much point. I'd much rather talk to people on Mibba in the comfort of my own home lol.

That must be hard. But that's very nice of you to do that. I know girls who make their boyfriends not talk to a girl, but they will hang out and spend the night at another guy's house. I think that's messed up. If one partner doesn't want the other partner to do something, that partner has to not do it too.

I stopped hanging out with people in general. There is just too much bullshit where I am. I rather text or chat on Facebook. That does make sense so don't worry. I'm the type that always got walked on so I don't bother anymore.

@ Psychotic Secrets
Yeah I hear ya. It's hard for me to keep guys friends because I am married and believe it isn't right to keep other male relationships when you are in a marriage. I mean I still have some guy friends that I talk to casually, but never hang out with so this kind of leaves me in a pickle. I certainly wouldn't want my husband to be hanging out with a bunch of female friends, so I don't hang out with guys either.

I have female friends who I could hang out with in town that I used to be close with but they have always got some petty shit going on and stopped making me a priority no matter how much effort or how nice I was to them. I've really stopped bothering to care about it though. My husband is my bestfriend. I have my family and friends at work. I also have a really hefty cat who is my best friend surprisingly lol. I've got several female friends on Facebook that actually stemmed from Mibba friendships so that's about all I need. I talk to those girls on a daily basis and I'd much rather just sit and talk to some of my friends then always having to go figure out something to do in person if that makes sense?

I've had my run in with members of Mibba being promoted to staff and then letting it go to their heads just to start snubbing certain people, writing off others, causing trouble, and then 'hiding' behind the actual admins. That's what the big fuss was about back when the whole journal/blog mod idea was first brought about and there were tons of users who wanted to be part of staff, and there were select staff members who happened to be close friends with each other chosen as staff members and basically everything was really messed up and chaotic because this was all before the New New Mibba and before Mibba actually started to enforce the "No bashing" rules.

That's what I believe too. I stopped having girl friends for that very reason. Because its mainly the girls that live in my town who are "better" than everyone. Some when say they are feminists but they says men are below them and are shit. So I just stay clear of everyone. My better friends are guys anyway.

@ Psychotic Secrets
Well that's cool. The world still needs it's leaders you know? Someone has to do it and it's great when the leader is level headed and tries to be fair with everyone. So that's a good thing.

It does suck that there will always be people who try to be better than you. I think a lot of people do it because they are insanely insecure and the only way they can feel confident is if they make others look bad. I have a hard time keeping friends with females in real life for this reason alone. Girls are very competitive and naturally the more insecure sex than men, at least that's what I think.

Sure men are insecure but they generally don't let those insecurities run their life.

@ sempiternal.
Yeah I can totally merit your intentions then. It's nice to discover how the world works and how people think from all sides so that's understandable.

@ Diamond Bunny.
Well said.

@ xMandiblesx

That's a good point. It's just second nature for me at this point to question every soft or weak point I see. I also want people to maybe see a side of something they didn't see or know before. But yeah the people you're talking about are assholes.

I don't think it's conceited at all, I actually agree. It's just like starting a trend, and knowing you were the first. It's just like, "wow." You know? I don't think that it's wrong because that's just how things are. As people we all influence each other in some way or another, by starting a conversation or just posting an opinion. Not to say that they are always positive influence but... yeah.

I can understand having to explain myself if I told someone their hair looked stupid. Like something vague like that. But the terms "I do not agree with *blank*" should not have to be e planned a million damn times. I disagree, that's all. That's my opinion. Same with that's their opinion. I'm not a child, everything I say or do don't have to be checked up by anyone. I ran run around naked if I wanted to. I bet no one is going to run up and ask me why then. Because not everything has a reason. Well that's what I believe anyway.

I know the issue about authority. Though I haven't met anyone here with authority say anything rude or mean to me. In life, oh fuck yeah. I have a neighbor who was a sweet guy until he got promoted and got an award. Now he thinks his shit doesn't stink. I told him he was an useless piece of shit finally. Some people cannot have control because they will abuse the power. In high school I had a tough time with subs because they would judge me because my looks and try to be rude to me. But since I graduated and went to college I got over that. People are always going to think they are better than me.

I don't blame you. I was in situations like that when I was directing this fashion show in school. One girl thought she was better than me because she was president of the fashion club. I knocked her down a few notches when I told her the show was from the class not the club and I had authority. My teacher thought it was hilarious when I did that. (My teacher and I were close and she didn't like how the president treated everyone)

I like being the leader, I have a nurturing personality so I already help everyone so it's easier for me.

@ wanderer.
I agree. I dislike when people try and act superior. Some do it just because they've been on this site for along time. (I'm not talking about you, different situation entirely) That's why I try to always state in my blogs that I'm not trying to act better or higher above anyone else.

@ sempiternal.
Well I mean that's still the difference between you and the people "nit pickers" I'm referring to. It's one thing to mean well and do it and then just to do it to be a bit of an arse for personal amusement. Like when it isn't helping people by tough love you know? So...I understand. It's nice and honorable that you admit to it also.

@ Psychotic Secrets
Yes! You hit the nail right on the head so to speak lol. That saying always cracked me up cause I think of a big hammer, hammering a nail. Anyway, exactly. We shouldn't HAVE to explain our every word or actions on here. It just gets so tiring.

Most of the staff on here I have interacted with has been unbelievably helpful and nice. Then there are a few people who have been promoted to Admin and it goes completely straight to their heads. Sometimes they are not nice too and it's like there's a double standard for them.

They can tiptoe around not being nice themselves while getting to tell other people what to say and what not to say. Of course those types are very few, I was just saying. I particularly don't like positions of a authority. I don't like being in charge or having the weight of telling people what is accepted by the rules. I'd just rather be little old me, but that's just my opinion.

This goes for people at my work. I've seen tons of crew members come in and then get promoted to management. Then they abuse the power and stand around never fucking working while still getting praised and us hard working crew get dumped on. It pisses me off to no end!

I completely agree with about the cliques. But that's the way it's always been on Mibba. I've been a member of this site for years now and have always noticed that there's always a group of people who act like we're in high school. Also, I've noticed that people try to act like they're superior on here because of certain things. It frustrates me so bad and is one of the reasons why I'm not as active in the blog section anymore.

This is going to sound awful of me, but sometimes I disagree with people just because I'm able to. I guess because of my AP class I'm always looking for fallacies and poor logic in debates and arguments. And if I see it, even if I AGREE with them, I'll challenge them on it. Nit picky? Hell yeah it is. I'll be the first to admit it. I can't even help it sometimes, it's just a habit. But I promise my intentions are to help them strengthen their ideas.