- pravda.:
- Actually, I'm not upset. I am angry. Because sexism makes me angry and your remarks are sexist. You're supporting the sexualisation and shaming of breastfeeding (by others if not yourself), you're supporting the 'right' for men to make sex objects of women at the men's choosing, and you're dismissing female experiences of sexism and harassment. You're demanding (or, sorry, educating us with the suggestion) that women remove themselves from the public sphere rather than expose themselves (again putting the blame/onus on the woman) to harassment. Saying you don't see the sexism in what you're saying is not some genius defence against accusations of sexism.
This is a much more appropriate response. I must admit I'm not glad you're angry, not because I overly care of your feelings, but because you are still misinterpreting my points, words and attitudes. I just feel like you're arguing with me by replying to posts you made for me.
I'll try and explain myself again. I do NOT support shaming of breastfeeding. I think breastfeeding is a natural process which is unrightfully tabooed and sometimes ostricized. I think that every woman should have the right to breastfeed her child whenever she deems it right. It should be an undeniable right of both her and her child. I think they should be able to do this in public, on tv, or wherever it's possible and called for.
I am simply saying (pay attention now please), that if she is uncomfortable with being exposed, or is in fear of being watched in the act, and it all makes her uncomfortable, the logical train of thought calls not for the assumption that all the people around her will not look, but that she will make it harder, or impossible for them to do so, simply to avoid her own discomfort. Relying on EVERYONE ELSE, to not look, is both impractical and illogical.
First of all, people are not nice and overtly polite and etiquetted toward other strangers. Calling upon their political correctness, compassion and understanding is not the most logical path to take in most situations. It's not nice to think of the world this way, but it's how things unfortunately are. Second of all, at some point, people passing by will have to actually look at her to determine that she is in fact, breastfeeding. If she is not comfortable with this, it is only logical that she covers herself up. NOT because it's how it should be, but because people will have to actuall first look at her to see that they (should look away or whatever). It makes absolutely no sense in that case, not to cover up.
I'll be glad to continue explaining why I think it's not appropriate for breastfeeding women to complain about others refusing to look away, after I am sure that we got this first part clear, and that you understand what it is I was actually saying.