It wasn't condescending , I was saying beforehand, that in your anger you made it hard for me to actually address the issue and reply to your posts. I don't think it's condescending of me to point this out.
- pravda.:
- I'd appreciate if you didn't use such condescending language.
I never said any of this. If they are being regarded as immoral, they should object and be offended.
- pravda.:
- My first and most significant problem was you thinking it inappropriate for mothers feeding their babies to complain about being regarded as inappropriately sexual or as disgusting or immoral, or being regarded sexually. If you think you have a reasonable explanation, please do elaborate because I do not see the problem with a woman 'complaining' Side note, to who? Who is she irrationally complaining to - her family? The stranger who is staring? The owner of the building? The internet? Why do they have the right to stare but she does not have the right to complain about their staring? (Your previous explanation was that, by feeding their infant [or dressing a certain way] they give up their right to not be harassed by strangers.)
My previous explanation did not have any suggestion that the woman is giving up her right to not be harassed. I would appreciate it if you would finally take note of this. There is a very real and serious distinction between looking and harrassing someone. And, once again, I make distinction between looking and rudely staring, foaming at the mouth, dropping lewd comments etc etc.
In the very next post, and pretty much in every other post I made (although maybe not explicitely enough for you), I held both parties take some responsibility. Maybe you think that the sense of entitlement only works one way.
- pravda.:
- Why, in any terms or insinuation, suggest that it should be the woman's responsibility to actively (going out of her way) avoid this? That attitude is exactly what perpetuates the sense of entitlement which encourages the behaviour you're supposedly against.
I will repeat myself.. I don't think it's fine for people to stare and oogle at breastfeeding women, nor is it right for the woman to refuse to not provide them with the opportunity to oogle and then tell them to fuck off, or creep around or what ever. It's not like she should make an immense effort either, a simple paper towel or moving somewhere to the side would be perfectly fine.
I was explaining the principles of social contract. Accentuating the fact that the polite, and socially acceptable way of going about it, is where you both participate in making the public atmosphere comfortable for everyone, and not just expect everyone to make you comfortable while you do nothing.
- pravda.:
- Sorry, I must be misunderstanding you again. Did you just compare blowing harmful chemicals into another's face/lungs, urinating in public (creating odor/damage) and physical contact/harm to a mother feeding her infant?
September 26th, 2012 at 07:28pm