Gay Couples Adopting

One question... what exactly do you mean by "gender roles"?

druscilla; dormouse.:

I think that people who will make good parents [responsible, financially able, etc.] should be able to adopt.

Sexuality shouldn't be important.

Agreed and Agreed.

They are still human, chances are they will be better parents than a female/male couple anyways..

Endless Nameless:

I agree with Durscilla..

It doesn't matter if you're gay, straight, bi, black, white, etc...you should still be able to adopt a child regardless of what your orientation, race, religion, or whatever is you are.. it's basically stopping people from having what they want because you don't like them because of who they are/decided how to live...it's just really wrong

but at the same time you cannot say it is wrong without saying that is just your oppinion because to these people, it is not wrong. It is what they believe.

Leonore Paisley:

One question... what exactly do you mean by "gender roles"?

I have a class (Christian Sexuality, which isn't as shitty as it sounds) at school that defines a gender role as the "commonly accepted place in society for a certain gender."

^ That's ridiculous and slightly sexist, to be quite honest. Nowadays women and men aren't as restricted as they once were as to what was commonly acceptable.

I guess that's another reason why I don't mind gay adoption. I don't really see "women" and "men." I see people; and men can do what women do and women can do what men do... except giving birth or things along those lines.

Personally, I just think it's dumb when people assume the children of gay and lesbian couples will grow up and "be" the opposite gender of themselves. What, like they'll never see men and women outside of the home? Like their parents are going to keep them locked up and try to make the "dykey" or "femme"? Please.

1) Sexuality shouldn't matter in parenting; being good at it should.
2) I don't think kids with gay parents will grow up to be "just like them" or "immoral"

One of my friends, Steven, has gay parents. His mom is a lesbian. Trust me, he is not "just like them" He's not "immoral" or anything; he's a really cool guy.

I wish the world wouldnt look down on same sex marriages or adpotions. I believe that if the child is happy with the parents and dont mind having two mums or two dads, then it is perfectly acceptable.

Orchestra Of Wolves:

dont mind having two mums or two dads

What if they did?

Kurtni Manson:

Orchestra Of Wolves:

dont mind having two mums or two dads

What if they did?

Honestly, if they're two good people, and two good parents, what reason would the child have for resenting them?
Only the feelings of others in the community would impact negatively on that relationship ... I'd imagine ...

Um. In my personal experience, I think I was about 10 or so when I realised it wasn't a normal thing that I had two mums. I was a bright kid, too. Some communities, that kind of sentiment - anti-homosexuality - doesn't get in much.
So really the only reason I had for resenting it was the fact that mum's partner was abusive :shifty

lumipyry.:

Kurtni Manson:

Orchestra Of Wolves:

dont mind having two mums or two dads

What if they did?

Honestly, if they're two good people, and two good parents, what reason would the child have for resenting them?
Only the feelings of others in the community would impact negatively on that relationship ... I'd imagine ...

Um. In my personal experience, I think I was about 10 or so when I realised it wasn't a normal thing that I had two mums. I was a bright kid, too. Some communities, that kind of sentiment - anti-homosexuality - doesn't get in much.
So really the only reason I had for resenting it was the fact that mum's partner was abusive :shifty

Not everyone who is adopted is a kid though who gets to grow up with having two moms or two dads that get to show they're good loving parents, teenagers and older kids are in adoption centers too, they could easily have developed homophobic opinions, they might not be happy with two moms/dads.

I'm very supportive of gay adoption, but when I read that person's post that part just made me think "Hey, what if they do mind?" so I asked that just to see what others thought.

No, that's a really valid point.
It's a circle we've got to break into -

On the one side, there is homophobic feeling in society. On the other side there is the protection from it, legislation and action and such. A change in one changes the other.
We have to decide what would be better - changing the law before the feelings disappear, and dealing with the fall out; or changing the feelings to the point where the laws will, as a reaction, be changed.
Anti-discrimination laws regarding gender, race, etc, were put in while there was still a lot of opposing opinion. However people saw those who held that opinion to be old-fashioned, politically incorrect, etc. Yes, there were still racists around. Yes, there are still racists today. But in a modern society that sentiment is really frowned upon; we were forced to act differently, so slowly the people who thought differently grew, becoming - I think - an overwhelming majority.

-shrug- That's why I think gay adoption should be legalised.
It made me cry when I read about our Prime Minister repealing the legislation the Attorney General of the State had pushed through.

I think people who are homosexual should have the same rights as people who aren't. Liking the same sex as you shouldn't affect whether you have a child or not.
And I think it is unfair on the child if the person is not allowed to adopt them. Say, for instance, the couple is the only chance the child may be adopted, then the child is being deprived of having a family and being able to live a normal life.
I do not believe that a person may love a child more or less, depending on their sexuality. I think the child will just be happy to be adopted in the first place and wouldn't care whether they have two mums or two dads.

i totaly agree!
to deny a gay couple to not have a child is discrimination!
they never know, they might be a better parent than the het. couple that theyre giving the kid to!

I think gay adoption should be tolerated.
As several people have stated, it's how good the parents can be parents, not the gender.
Gay people should have the same rights as straight people. Homosexuality doesn't make a person less human than someone who's straight.

Who are we to tell someone else that they can't raise a child properly just because they are different than we are?
There are plenty of straight couples who have children that do not even deserve to be called a 'parent'.

I am totally For same-sex adoption. It simply makes sense.

What makes two males lesser of a family than a male and a female? For all we know the male in the heterosexual family is violent! Their baby could turn out gay!

And on a side note: I am so happy that Canada supports gay marriage. It makes me proud to be a Canadian. That isn't to say that there is no discrimination. It just means that everyone is given a chance at eternal happiness...

I don't see anything wrong with gay adoption. I fully support it.

I think it's great when gay couples adopt.

That's a huge pro to being gay. The arn't helping with the over-populating of the earth and helping kids who don't have familys

Leonore Paisley:

One question... what exactly do you mean by "gender roles"?

who would be the "mother" and who would the "father"