Woman Allows 16 Year Old Daughter to Marry 51 Year Old Man

@ dru vs. slut shaming
Okay.

I don't see why parents should be allowed to consent for their kids to break the law. My mom couldn't sign off for me to drink or smoke as a minor. Why should she be able to sign off on me having sex with an adult as a minor? Laws exist to protect kids, what good are they if they can just be annulled by what amounts to a permission slip?

QUESTION! *raises my hand and waves it around* I was aware you could marry if you were under the age of eighteen with parent consent, but does that mean that statutory rape doesn't apply anymore?

Also, I don't think it's a problem if they're actually in love. If she's marrying him because he's an actor and she wants to be noticed in the media as a country, that's a whole different story. It all seems kind of fishy to me. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if this girl divorced him five years later, took all his money, and used the media that would probably be gushing over this story once again to attempt to live in the spotlight for a bit. Jussayin.

@ princess jasmine
This site says stat rape laws still apply to minors. You are legally allowed to have sex with your spouse.

@ Kurtni
I'm not one who's for the 'ooooh, you're pregnant so let's get hitched thing' but would you view the situation differently if the woman was pregnant? (Parents letting minors get married.)

dru vs. slut shaming:

@ Kurtni
I'm not one who's for the 'ooooh, you're pregnant so let's get hitched thing' but would you view the situation differently if the woman was pregnant? (Parents letting minors get married.)

No, I wouldn't. Having a baby and being a minor is a recipe for divorce.

In fact I think some situations like that, where parents not only give their consent, but push teenage girls to get married because of outdated views on purity and virginity, are exactly why minors need laws to protect them.

princess jasmine:

Also, I don't think it's a problem if they're actually in love. If she's marrying him because he's an actor and she wants to be noticed in the media as a country, that's a whole different story.

The problem is that it's absolutely impossible to discern what the relationship is formed on. It looks better if the foundation is love, but I mean, the mother can't know that, even if her child claims it. I think it's good that her mom is being respectful of her child- but she's also making a poor choice allowing this girl to commit to a man of any age when her prefrontal cortex isn't completely developed and her judgement is compromised. I think her mom should respect her relationship decisions, but also not aid her in making a premature decision that will affect her in a long-term way.

@ Kurtni
I was just curious.

I generally do not agree with the marriage 'cause of pregnancy at any age, but I do know there are situations where a girl may have gotten pregnant by her enlisted boyfriend and she and her child can't live with him if they aren't married (my mother).

Everyone is talking about how she's not a little girl and that her parents did allow her to get married. In my opinion, if you need permission you are too young to be married. Granted, you may be in live but true love will wait. Also, no matter if they divorce or stay together, the girl is setting herself up to be unhappy. Either they divorce and she falls into a slump, or he dies, because let's face it, he will die first. Unless something terrible happens, but that's beside the point. Has anyone stopped to realize that this man is over three times her age? I just don't understand why anyone, a parent or a teenager who want her to marry this man.

@ Sparklingbows
A lot of adults marry people with age differences. My grandparents married late in life and are 12 years apart. Should they have not gotten married because one of them will die first? Widowers get remarried in elderly age all the time, knowing full well one of them will die first but knowing that experiencing love is worth losing it.

@ dru vs. slut shaming
Exactly what you just said. Many ADULTS get married. This girl was 16. Also, the post said to post your opinion. That is simply what I did, and what you did. If you don't like it, the fortunate for you, you don't have to agree with it.

@ Sparklingbows
I was simply responding. We are allowed to have discussions of opinions in these threads. The ideas you put forth did not seem at all exclusive to the girl or her situation, which was why I questioned your post. Yes, we are all able to post our opinions here, but other users are allowed to respond to those opinions and even question them.

Okay, I understand that but once again, I was posting my opinion and just because you disagree with it dosen't mean you need to call me out on it. I'm not and never was looking for a debate.

@ dru vs. slut shaming

@ Sparklingbows
Again, I was simply responding to your post. These threads are meant to cause discussion, which cannot happen if users do not engage each other. I am allowed to respond and if I want to, I will. I've done nothing wrong.

@ dru vs. slut shaming
Okay well this is where it ends.

dru vs. slut shaming:

@ Kurtni
I was just curious.

I generally do not agree with the marriage 'cause of pregnancy at any age, but I do know there are situations where a girl may have gotten pregnant by her enlisted boyfriend and she and her child can't live with him if they aren't married (my mother).

If they're minors I don't think they should live together (and I don't think minors should be able to enlist). Teen pregnancy, young marriage *and*military service/deployment are all red flags for imminent divorce. I think anyone who decides to get married in that situation needs to be a legal adult.

@ Kurtni
My dad turned 18 a few months before my mom turned 18 and he enlisted and she wanted to move to Spain with him and me, rather than him go and her remain after graduating without the father of her child or a way to get over to the father of her child. He was not a minor when he enlisted. Granted, she was also trying to get out of a sexually abusive household, so she didn't want herself or her child around that.

In general, it was a shitty situation but I'm glad she did it or I wouldn't have my brother and sister or my stepdad, who she met in Spain.

As a military brat, I just see military marriages a lot.

In reference to the first post, would I allow my underage daughter to marry a 51 year old man? No. Not when she's underage. I'd tell her if she still feels strongly about him by the time she's 18, then she can do what she wants. But me nor her father will be happy about it.

I personally wouldn't allow my daughter to marry him. I am not comfortable with the idea of a girl marrying/having sex with a man old enough to be her grandfather. I'm actually interested in when the relationship started. If it had been going on for two years (for example) then she would have been 14- which definitely doesn't sit well with me. The article also states he is a rich actor and she is an aspiring country singer, so I doubt it's for true love as they claim.

@ Fishlover
From what I understood, the girl had been taking online acting lessons and he was the teacher; they somehow began dating through the internet but had not disclosed ages, and when they met in person they decided to let it keep happening.