Homosexuality (and Everything Else)

I agree. Most of the people I know are really homophobic. I hate when people judge just like that. Me and my boyfriend are happy with each other going on seven months when I've liked him for a year now. I also sorta atheist but somewhat Christian (my parents make me go to church--if I like it or not) so I mostly don't believe in sin. Thank you all for posting such wonderful things :)

The other day I was watching The Voice with my family. Well, one of the guys on there is gay. My cousin's nephew went, "I can't stand seeing men act like that, it's disgusting." Almost flew off my handle. :c Act like what? Like they are having the time of their life? Like they are happy with who they are? Because I honestly don't get what isn't to love.

I love gay people. I love them so much. I can't put it into words how much I love them. All of them. Twinks, bears, daddies, butch lesbians, femme lesbians, even the ones you'd never know were gay because they don't identify as any specific part of the culture (no offense meant, most of my friends do identify as some sect of the culture, not saying everyone should or does, they just do). One of my best friends identifies as a twink, and I've read people don't seem to like them, but I love him. He's adorable. I just wanna cuddle him but his daddy is like, No. Hands off. I'm one of the obsessive Logo watchers. I have drag queen pictures up on my walls. I'm pan myself, so I'm also attracted to women among every other gender identity or non-identity. I also believe in tolerance, people. And I hate the word homophobic. You're not afraid, you just hate them. Phobias are fears. People who hate gay people are bigots. You can see that as an insult, but also see it for its true meaning. Bigotry is discrimination.

I wholeheartedly believe in gay marriage. I mean, if you love somebody and they love you back then you should be able to marry them. It is wrong to tell someone you can't do or be something that is not going to harm anyone because everyone is created equally.

ptvjaime:

And I hate the word homophobic. You're not afraid, you just hate them. Phobias are fears. People who hate gay people are bigots. You can see that as an insult, but also see it for its true meaning. Bigotry is discrimination.

Phobia also means "aversion", i.e. a strong dislike or repulsion. E.g. xenophobic, hydrophobic, etc.

Doe.:

The other day I was watching The Voice with my family. Well, one of the guys on there is gay. My cousin's nephew went, "I can't stand seeing men act like that, it's disgusting." Almost flew off my handle. :c Act like what? Like they are having the time of their life? Like they are happy with who they are? Because I honestly don't get what isn't to love.

I really appreciate this post. Why can't everyone just love everyone?
It really makes me so sad sometimes. I mean, maybe I'm sensitive or something but can't we just all get along or is that too much for everyone? Okay, some people deserve merit to dislike but c'mon guys. Haven't we had enough hate to last us for more than a million lifetimes.

I know I'm young but some day I want a family and it might be scary but I want to adopt or have kids and I don't want my kids or any kids growing up thinking there's something wrong with them specifically for loving someone who has the same biological organs... it shouldn't be that way.

Just spread some love today, please.

It doesn't sit well with me when people say, "I love gay people," "I want a gay friend," or anything like that. Sure, it's lighthearted and meant to be a compliment, but it's also kinda generalizing and stereotyping. I'm gay, and I'm not your typical homosexual male. I don't like shopping, I don't listen to Lady Gaga, and I'm not "fabulous". I'm pretty rude, too. I've met some gays that are complete dicks to everyone, but I've also met those gays that are really nice to everyone and love the world.

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It doesn't sit well with me when people say, "I love gay people," "I want a gay friend," or anything like that. Sure, it's lighthearted and meant to be a compliment, but it's also kinda generalizing and stereotyping. I'm gay, and I'm not your typical homosexual male. I don't like shopping, I don't listen to Lady Gaga, and I'm not "fabulous". I'm pretty rude, too. I've met some gays that are complete dicks to everyone, but I've also met those gays that are really nice to everyone and love the world.

I'm with you on this. A couple of my female friends and I joke about how I'm their "gay best friend", just for a laugh, but they're already my friends in the first place. Whereas I would find the idea of being a girl's "gay best friend" for the sake of it to be a bit... well, like I'm an accessory or something. And they'd be severely disappointed if they expected me to give them good fashion advice. I'm pretty scruffy and I'm generally only ever seen in clothes shops when I'm in dire need of new clothes.

It also find it a bit weird (albeit partly flattering) when I'm with my boyfriend in bars/clubs and girls approach us to tell us that "we're so cute together." I appreciate the compliment, but if you think about it, it would be bizarre if I went up to a straight couple and said the same thing. Having said that, I would take that reaction over tuts/jeers/general homophobia any day.

@ Alex; periphery.
Me and my boyfriend have been told we're cute together. I've seen that said to straight couples and gay couples. But maybe it depends on where you live.

So I'm starting to get the notion that I may be pansexual. I at one point had a huge crush on a transgendered male, tried to date him...(didn't turn out too well because he liked my rather rude friend).

But what do I know?

I don't even know what I am because I'm not sexually attracted to anyone, but I still find people attractive?
I forgot the term for it, but yeah.

@ dr. collier
Would it be asexual? You can still be romantically attracted to people, as well as just generally thinking they're aesthetically pleasing, and there are different gradations of a lack of sexual attraction, like with "gray asexuals"/demisexuals.

@ SmilingScarlet
Female to male? If that's the case you could just be straight if he identified as male, but I'm not sure. I wouldn't want to step on any toes saying so but sexuality is fluid, there's no need to really label it.

@ dr. collier
There's such things as romantic/panromantic asexuals, where people aren't sexually attracted to anyone, but romantically attracted. There's a lot of things that fits into, like consulting detective said.

(but dyke is right too; there's no need for labels if you don't feel you need one)

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I like aro ace for myself. I find some people aesthetically appealing, but I still wouldn't want to be in a relationship of any sort with them, aside from a possible platonic/friends. But hey ~ maybe my hormones™ haven't set in yet ~. so you can comfortably identify as straight or gay or bi at as young as you want but not asexual no matter what age.

@ caves of steel.
I don't have romantic attractions; people are like good paintings to me. Nice to look at, nothing more.
That was really poetic and lovely. How unusual.

@ dyke
Uh...male to female, but no you're right! Sorry, love. I just don't care for gender, also I've been in the dark for a lot...so this is fairly new to me.

@ SmilingScarlet
Okay, well you could identify as pansexual then, or bisexual because I know you've been attracted to men before. I'm sure there are more sexualities but if you really find yourself attracted to a person and not their gender, go with that.
It's whatever you're comfortable with and really, a sexuality by name is just an adjective but it's not necessary. Like, "there is a black cat,"
"there is a cat"

you don't need to if you don't want to, and if you want to because it'll make you feel like you know more about yourself, that's fine. I'd say most likely pansexual, I don't know any of the new sexualities or anything like that but if that's what you think you are and you agree with it, by all means.

@ dyke
Oh! That makes perfect sense, the cat example.

Oh it's definitely to try and understand myself a lot better. I was brought up a bit closed minded, and have since then tried to figure out what I like and don't like, and things like that.

Also, there was an odd moment in my life where I was thoroughly convinced that I'd get a sex change. Well not a moment, it was a three year kind of thing, and I remember being uncomfortable with identifying as a female, to this day I can't explain that, and sometimes I still feel that way.

But that turned out too long, sorry!

dru is beautiful.:

@ Alex; periphery.
Me and my boyfriend have been told we're cute together. I've seen that said to straight couples and gay couples. But maybe it depends on where you live.

I suppose I just associated it with the kind of objectification of gay guys that occurs with some girls. And it felt a little bit patronising. But I could be wrong.

I don't know why this has been on my mind so much but it bothers me that where my family and I are from, it's entirely alright for a woman to be gay and it's actually accepted to a point whilst if a man is gay they are shunned and in one case I know of, beaten to death. In the US now I see the opposite and it disturbs me a lot.

Also, the fact that it's getting to the point again where because of your sexual orientation, you may not get jobs, it drives me mad. I think it's nobody's business who anyone wants to date, your sexuality is between yourself and who you're in a relationship with.