Favoritism

sunshines:

I think there is something about the youngest sibling getting the attention. They, are the last child so they get it. Especially if it's a boy. I dunno why parents take a lot of pride in their sons. Both my step-mum and my dad do. But I'm daddy's little girl too.

My step-mum favours her son, obviously cause she gave birth to him not me. They get along better and she's provides him with opportunities I never had. Which I zealously envy.

But I still love them.

There's always going to be favouritism because a person always gets along or admires somebody else and considers them a favourite. That's the thing with humanity, we don't realise we categorise people unintentionally, unless it's told to us.

I mean people don't spend hours doing blueprints or planning schemes on how to make five favouristism to their favourite. A bit ridiculous.

Unless it is out of spite. Which is low.

I'm the youngest and I've always gotten the least attention :shifty

^^Now that's just creepy. :cheese: That's a first.
My dad says he favours my younger brother because he's the last child and a boy.
Then who gets the most attention?

sunshines:

I think there is something about the youngest sibling getting the attention. They, are the last child so they get it. Especially if it's a boy. I dunno why parents take a lot of pride in their sons. Both my step-mum and my dad do. But I'm daddy's little girl too.

Youngest sibling gets the attention? :lmfao That is rich. Out of me, my sister and my 'friend' I am the youngest. I am the most ignored and the outlet for the problems. The scapegoat if you will.

If I stand up for myself, I am the bad guy. If my sister or friend do something wrong, it is my fault.
Does not bother me that much anymore though. I am just apathetic and stay out of their way. Until they start bitching how I never pay them any mind. :coffee:

In my family, the youngest always gets the best and the eldest is the scapegoat. It's been that way for many generations.
Anything that is the younger sibling's fault is the eldest one's because they are older and should know better. Everything is the oldest' fault. :grr:
This is so weird. That's probably because I've grown up with it.

I honestly believe that my parents regard each of their children equally. I have never been in a situation where I've thought "it's cos they love them better."

Except..my mother has said more than once that she considers myself and my youngest brother better looking :shifty: She's a crazy woman.

My mom's big into this.
It's like I try to do everything to make her happy.
I think about her feelings.
I respect them.
I try not to anger her even more.

But nothing I do ever works.
She's closer to my younger sister.
It's not fair, you know.
She doesn't care about how my mom feels,
doesn't bother trying to hide her opinions.
She just says them as soon as it's in her head.

Yet,
my mom's closer to her.
Does that make sense?
I think not.

My mom doesn't favor any one of us, and loves us all equally. All three of my sisters have our flaws, we make mistakes, we do things my mothing doesn't approve of. And we are all different, and have our own goals, and she respects us all for them. Yes, to my older sister it may seem like Annie and I have it made because we didn't have to go through half the stuff she did, but my mom was younger when she had her, and was trying to steer Jessica in the right direction. By the time she had me and my little sister, she was older, a stay at home mom for a while, and tired. Especially after she divorced my father and went back to school. But I know my mom loves all of us.

And that one thing my mom taught me, never compare your children to each other. It causes uneeded strife between siblings and internally.

^^You mum has great advice.
My family prides itself on favouritism. It's a competition for the love and approval of our parents. -sigh- I hate it.

I've never had to fight for attention with my parents because they are pretty balanced, I was always more keen on getting my Dad's attention and my brother wanted my Mom's. It just kind of worked out.

Now he wants both and I want neither, so once again all is good.

And there is this unspoken thing that I am my Gramma's favorite.
I know it and so does everyone else.
It's only because I listen to her and agree with everything she says even though she's practically senile.

I think between my brother and I, there's always been favortism towards me on my father's part. I think it's mainly because my brother can be quite lazy and ignorant, not to mention unappreciatve of my father.

My grandma prefers my brother though, it's blatently obvious; he never doubts anything she says while I aren't just going to take everything she says to me. If I think it's rude, I tell her so.

My grandma and I have an interesting relationship.

I think I was the favorite...And still probably am. I don't know, me and my mom just have that bond that just awesome. -shrugs-

mm...I think my mum favours my brother....and as for my dad...uh...I don't know if he has a favourite.

My dad will never admit it, but everyone knows I am my dad's favorite.

But he'll never say it. It's pretty apparent :tehe:

coquette:

My dad will never admit it, but everyone knows I am my dad's favorite.

But he'll never say it. It's pretty apparent :tehe:

That's exactly how it is with my dad as well; he doesn't admit it but he really doesn't have to. :shifty

My family has favorited my brother for my entire life, until recently.
It's really weird.

Eh, I feel like an outsider in my family.
I'm the youngest by a long way.
My brother and sister are both in their late twenties and I feel like I could be closer to them as well as to my parents.

I'm a mummy's girl, if anything.
I love my mum but I wish that I had more to do with my dad.
Usually it seems like I never have anything interesting to say to him, so he doesn't pay attention. I act like a dork a lot of the time and he doesn't approve of that.

He thinks my brother is hilarious and always laughs at his jokes, and he loves my sister because she can hold a conversation with him about things that he likes.

What a shame that I don't find archeology interesting!

sunshines:

^^You mum has great advice.
My family prides itself on favouritism. It's a competition for the love and approval of our parents. -sigh- I hate it.

Now I have to ask, why are you fighting for their attention?

I am just wondering considering it is their fault if they ignore someone amazing.
-shrugs- I am not that amazing, but I am going to do something with my life unlike my sisters and my mom is going to miss out on that.

Shattered Music:

sunshines:

^^You mum has great advice.
My family prides itself on favouritism. It's a competition for the love and approval of our parents. -sigh- I hate it.

Now I have to ask, why are you fighting for their attention?

Because we all need approval for some reason. I thrive on pleasing other people, that's the only way I can gain satisfaction for myself.
My family is rather dysfunctional in that aspect. I think it still thrives on that Indian tradition of pride in academic excellence etc, even though we haven't been Indian for such a long time.